Ugh

Another guy.. another, not into me that I cant stop thinking about. Little crush, need to be patient, will be over soon. But really what is bothering me is when will i like the guys and the same ones like me back? Why am I only into the ones that wont be into me? I am great!

Anyway, last night after driving 26 miles to see him and him not asking me to hang out after $20 and 2 hours later, I said "screw it, i know what this is, he is just not that into me".

I got over Terence pretty easily til he freaking started calling again and finally just excommunicated him. I should do the same with this one. Just see him as a "friend" nothing more.

Damn that "He's just not that into you" book! Now I know exactly when the guy isn't into me and it bothers and it still hurts. I thought knowing was half the battle GI Joe! The tips are true and they are glaringly undeniable in that book. To recap he's just not that into you if...

1. He's just not that inot you if he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about awoman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more. Ifhe’s friends with someoneand attracted to her, he’sgoing to want to take it further.

If he’s not making a move,it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

2. He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you.
He says he didn’t have a moment in his busy day to call. Rubbish! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. Also, If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn’t follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you.

4.He’s just not that into you if he’s not dating you.
A guy who is really into you is going to want you all to himself. He is going to ask you on a date. He is going to want to be alone with you to see if you have a romantic future together.

5. He's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you.
Cheating doesn't just 'happen'. It's planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship. If he's sleeping with someone else without your knowledge or encouragement, he is not only behaving like a man who isn't into you, he is behaving like a man who doesn't even like you all that much.

6. He’s just not that into you if he only wants to see you when he’s drunk.
Having a drink may help you relax on a first date, but don’t confuse an ice breaker with real intimacy. If he only wants to see you, talk to you and have sex with you when he’s drunk, it ain’t love — it’s sport.

7.He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you-- eventually --on your time frame.
Every man you have dated who says he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will never be to you.

8.He’s just not that into you if he’s breaking up with you.
What could be better than hearing from the man who broke up with you that he misses you madly? It’svalidating. It’s exciting. It’s irresistible. Yet resistit. Unless he’s ready to get back for good he’s simplyfinding it hard being alone.

9.He’s just not that into you if he’s disappeared on you.
When a man disappears there’s no mixed message. He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you, that he couldn’t even bother to leave you a Post-it. Don’t make contact — he’s not in hospital with amnesia! — it will only give him a chance to reject you all over again.

10.He’s just not that into you if he’s married (and other insane variations for being unavailable).
No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them, these feelings mean nothing.


There you have it, the first two are applicable with my current situation. So .. the easy truth is "hes just not THAT into me." Time to move on.