Saturday, October 7, 2017
Tuesday, October 3, 2017
Signs he "moved on" ... and so should you ...
Sign He is Losing Interest
Men do lose interest. It's a fact. Men can get bored and when they do, they start wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. There are signs that a man is losing interest and if you are seeing these signs, take action and start to move away from him, preferably now, before he decides to mow the lawn of another and you get hurt in the process. He likely already is. ;)
1. His calls and texts are less frequent. If you notice a change in his calling or texting pattern, your boy is losing interests. A man wants to stay in touch with the woman he cares about and his patterns will not change. If you feel his calls are out of obligation this is another clue.
2. He starts making plans without you. Maybe a weekend trip with his buddies. If he usually wants to spend most of the weekend with you and now there are other things he wants to fit in, he is working you out of the priority seat slowly but surely this is one of the signs he has lost some interest and is expanding and moving into the differentiating phase of the relationship stages.
3. If when you address any issues or your feelings of him disappearing, he gets defensive or reacts negatively. If a man is thinking of leaving, he will not be comfortable more times than not by offering you reassurance. He will feel guilt which causes one to get defensive. If he defends his change of actions, your boyfriend is losing interest.
4. He says he needs some space. Watch out if you hear this one. The end is near more times than not. If a man says he needs space, he is feeling smothered. Smothered men do not thrive in a relationship ever. The harder you hold on to a man who says he needs space, the further you will push him away.
5. If your boy starts to become "distracted" with work or some other project, he may be losing interest and this is only an excuse to postpone the inevitable. Men that suddenly become preoccupied with something else often use this as a way to prolong the break up.
Men do lose interest. It's a fact. Men can get bored and when they do, they start wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. There are signs that a man is losing interest and if you are seeing these signs, take action and start to move away from him, preferably now, before he decides to mow the lawn of another and you get hurt in the process. He likely already is. ;)
1. His calls and texts are less frequent. If you notice a change in his calling or texting pattern, your boy is losing interests. A man wants to stay in touch with the woman he cares about and his patterns will not change. If you feel his calls are out of obligation this is another clue.
2. He starts making plans without you. Maybe a weekend trip with his buddies. If he usually wants to spend most of the weekend with you and now there are other things he wants to fit in, he is working you out of the priority seat slowly but surely this is one of the signs he has lost some interest and is expanding and moving into the differentiating phase of the relationship stages.
3. If when you address any issues or your feelings of him disappearing, he gets defensive or reacts negatively. If a man is thinking of leaving, he will not be comfortable more times than not by offering you reassurance. He will feel guilt which causes one to get defensive. If he defends his change of actions, your boyfriend is losing interest.
4. He says he needs some space. Watch out if you hear this one. The end is near more times than not. If a man says he needs space, he is feeling smothered. Smothered men do not thrive in a relationship ever. The harder you hold on to a man who says he needs space, the further you will push him away.
5. If your boy starts to become "distracted" with work or some other project, he may be losing interest and this is only an excuse to postpone the inevitable. Men that suddenly become preoccupied with something else often use this as a way to prolong the break up.
This is how he is supposed to be acting with you.
1He calls/texts for no particular reason other than to share stories about his day and ask about yours.
2 He makes plans to see you again. It is not enough for him to allude vaguely to the future, about something you might maybe do sometime together. If a guy wants you in his life, he will make specific plans to see you again.
3 He pays attention when you talk. His eyes are focused on you. He doesn't look around the room. He doesn't lose interest. You have the feeling as though he is hanging on your every word.
4 He introduces you to his friends. It's plain and simple: if a guy is excited about you, he will be excited to show you off to his friends.
5 He wants to meet your friends. And when he does, it is obvious that he wants to make a good impression.
6 He touches you in ways that have nothing to do with sex. He holds your hand, he kisses your forehead, he plays with your hair, he pulls you close. 7 He changes his Facebook status from "Single" to "In a relationship" without you having to ask about it.
8 He is there when you need something. Your car breaks down; he acts as your chauffeur for the week. A mouse occupies your house; he gets rid of it. You get sick; he brings you soup.
9 He does what he says he will do. Another obvious indicator: when he says he's going to do something, he does it.
10 When you hit bumps on your relationship road, he communicates easily, openly and without arguing. He doesn't get mad or withdrawn when you want to discuss your feelings or concerns about the relationship.
Monday, October 2, 2017
Word of wisdom
10/2
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”Deuteronomy 6:5 NIV
http://bible.com/111/deu.6.5.niv
I've been so focused on loving others lately that I got lost and put my affections in the wrong place versus where they need to be; on God, who can handle my love perfectly. Who loves me perfectly. Who has brought others into my life who can love me as He does because they know him and love Him the same way. I can only love in my special way and without perversion, when my eyes are on Christ.
I kinda forgot that with the unbelievers. I kinda forgot that I was there in game to love others and this to lead to God, not to hope they loved me. :(
I went astray and I see that today. My goals got mixed up. My ideals became clouded. My desires changed for a rly hot minute there.
John 10:10 New International Version (NIV)
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
Wow, thank God I'm still alive, if I had died at that time I could have given up salvation to some really stupid sins! Snatched from the fire once more by my blessed awareness. Screw you "Satan and his self-love"!
Not today, buddy. Not today. My "eyes are on the author and perfecter of my faith," not some temporary nonsense.
2 Corinthians 4:17New International Version (NIV)
17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”Deuteronomy 6:5 NIV
http://bible.com/111/deu.6.5.niv
I've been so focused on loving others lately that I got lost and put my affections in the wrong place versus where they need to be; on God, who can handle my love perfectly. Who loves me perfectly. Who has brought others into my life who can love me as He does because they know him and love Him the same way. I can only love in my special way and without perversion, when my eyes are on Christ.
I kinda forgot that with the unbelievers. I kinda forgot that I was there in game to love others and this to lead to God, not to hope they loved me. :(
I went astray and I see that today. My goals got mixed up. My ideals became clouded. My desires changed for a rly hot minute there.
John 10:10 New International Version (NIV)
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
Wow, thank God I'm still alive, if I had died at that time I could have given up salvation to some really stupid sins! Snatched from the fire once more by my blessed awareness. Screw you "Satan and his self-love"!
Not today, buddy. Not today. My "eyes are on the author and perfecter of my faith," not some temporary nonsense.
2 Corinthians 4:17New International Version (NIV)
17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
God, I am going to look for YOU
I know if I spend some time in the Word tomo I will get some perspective on all of this. I am going to sleep this shit off and then try to go back to what I know which is spend some time with God letting Him remind me of what's important when I'm caught up in the "cares of this world" and I forget.
This game and its game players has entirely recently gotten the best of me, and changed my attitude and belief temporarily, but it doesn't have to keep affecting me so negatively.
I need to give all this pain, regret, rejection, sadness, grief and despair to Him; who is strong enough to handle it all for me and walk me right through it and out of the fog. He already promised me...
Jeremiah 29:12-14English Standard Version (ESV)
12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations...
Deuteronomy 30:3,4
3 God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he'll have compassion on you; he'll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered.
4 No matter how far away you end up, God, your God, will get you out of there..
John 15:5
"I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
And lovingly warned me...
Mark 4:19
18Still others are like the seeds sown among the thorns. They hear the word, 19but the cares of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth, and the desire for other things come in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful. 20Yet others are like the seeds sown on good soil. They hear the word, receive it, and produce a crop—thirtyfold, sixtyfold, or a hundredfold.”…
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.
Luke 21:34
But watch yourselves, or your hearts will be weighed down by dissipation, drunkenness, and the worries of life--and that day will spring upon you suddenly like a snare.
This game and its game players has entirely recently gotten the best of me, and changed my attitude and belief temporarily, but it doesn't have to keep affecting me so negatively.
I need to give all this pain, regret, rejection, sadness, grief and despair to Him; who is strong enough to handle it all for me and walk me right through it and out of the fog. He already promised me...
Jeremiah 29:12-14English Standard Version (ESV)
12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. 13 You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you, declares the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations...
Deuteronomy 30:3,4
3 God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he'll have compassion on you; he'll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered.
4 No matter how far away you end up, God, your God, will get you out of there..
John 15:5
"I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
And lovingly warned me...
Mark 4:19
18Still others are like the seeds sown among the thorns. They hear the word, 19but the cares of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth, and the desire for other things come in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful. 20Yet others are like the seeds sown on good soil. They hear the word, receive it, and produce a crop—thirtyfold, sixtyfold, or a hundredfold.”…
Romans 12:2
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.
Luke 21:34
But watch yourselves, or your hearts will be weighed down by dissipation, drunkenness, and the worries of life--and that day will spring upon you suddenly like a snare.
Trolls in my game
Tonight in game people (strangers) are trying to console me in my extreme anger and fucking sadness and still befriend me. Um, no! Stop! I went around slapping everyone and telling people off as I have started feeling burnt out af and tonight I hated playing and felt super angry at myself.
Instead I get weird shit from various people "Oh you are just angry right now, but I can tell you're a sweetheart!? - Mage Let's wash off all that salt. -Shaman I will wait for you. I will be here for you when you come back to your senses. -Warrior Have you been so damaged you can't accept kindness or friends now? -Priest It's ok. It will be ok. Just start over. -Druid You can bounce back from all this. -Monk"
What the hell is wrong with people? Don't u see if I have already been hurt I am not about to let more people in? No more friends. What is really wrong with these out for blood trolls? Such cruel people in the world of Azeroth. Don't they know they will just end up leaving and not wanting to have anything to do with me? Their toy (me) is only fun for a fucking month.
Or worse they do know all this and they just want to play me anyway? Disgusting.
Instead I get weird shit from various people "Oh you are just angry right now, but I can tell you're a sweetheart!? - Mage Let's wash off all that salt. -Shaman I will wait for you. I will be here for you when you come back to your senses. -Warrior Have you been so damaged you can't accept kindness or friends now? -Priest It's ok. It will be ok. Just start over. -Druid You can bounce back from all this. -Monk"
What the hell is wrong with people? Don't u see if I have already been hurt I am not about to let more people in? No more friends. What is really wrong with these out for blood trolls? Such cruel people in the world of Azeroth. Don't they know they will just end up leaving and not wanting to have anything to do with me? Their toy (me) is only fun for a fucking month.
Or worse they do know all this and they just want to play me anyway? Disgusting.
Sunday, October 1, 2017
Hair Salon and time to think
Feeling: unwanted, unloved and blah
Thinking: I hate everyone and everything r n
Hoping: I can quell these terrible feelings/triggered sooner than later
3:30p Hair Update: Grrrr! After thinking about it; I should not have let anyone in. I should have been stronger in initially cutting things off. This is all my fucking fault. I have no one to blame but myself.
I can wallow in my self disgust for yet another mistake I didn't learn from, today. I pushed this person away and why then would I be surprised then when they've gone or finally now don't want to talk to me as much?
I did all this to myself. Good going me. Class A fuck up. It seems I can't have people in my life or NOT have people in my life rn.
God, what a regressive fucking mess I have become this week... this is prob because my time was not fulfilled and I don't have a overall direction either, thanks to this fucking illness! But I told them all this didn't I? No one fucking listened when I said No, get away! then they leave and I'm just supposed to sit around and be ok with them leaving me when they want to leave.
stop feeling so much for other people and stop opening yourself up to them.
Times like this make me realize how important it is for me to stay in the Word and always close to God. I can't be away from Him and such as I allow myself to get caught up in some dumb ass worldly shit or worldly friendships & relationships with ungodly people/unbelievers.
Look at what it leads me to every single time? Recession. Me behaving and thinking in ungodly ways and forgetting that this is all temporary! This life, this body, these people, and this situation.
Time to remind myself of what love is eternal and it most certainly isn't the one I've been pining on hope for..
Thinking: I hate everyone and everything r n
Hoping: I can quell these terrible feelings/triggered sooner than later
3:30p Hair Update: Grrrr! After thinking about it; I should not have let anyone in. I should have been stronger in initially cutting things off. This is all my fucking fault. I have no one to blame but myself.
I can wallow in my self disgust for yet another mistake I didn't learn from, today. I pushed this person away and why then would I be surprised then when they've gone or finally now don't want to talk to me as much?
I did all this to myself. Good going me. Class A fuck up. It seems I can't have people in my life or NOT have people in my life rn.
God, what a regressive fucking mess I have become this week... this is prob because my time was not fulfilled and I don't have a overall direction either, thanks to this fucking illness! But I told them all this didn't I? No one fucking listened when I said No, get away! then they leave and I'm just supposed to sit around and be ok with them leaving me when they want to leave.
stop feeling so much for other people and stop opening yourself up to them.
Times like this make me realize how important it is for me to stay in the Word and always close to God. I can't be away from Him and such as I allow myself to get caught up in some dumb ass worldly shit or worldly friendships & relationships with ungodly people/unbelievers.
Look at what it leads me to every single time? Recession. Me behaving and thinking in ungodly ways and forgetting that this is all temporary! This life, this body, these people, and this situation.
Time to remind myself of what love is eternal and it most certainly isn't the one I've been pining on hope for..
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