...it was not real love - it was 2 addicts

it was this...


http://www.tc.umn.edu/%7Eparkx032/RLT-WEB.html

http://www.tc.umn.edu/%7Eparkx032/CY-HOAX.html

Excerpt:
III. Love & Marriage: Fantasy & Facts.
In the American way of love, marriages are contracted 'for love'. But often the kind of 'love' that leads to the altar is romantic infatuation. After the honeymoon is over, grim reality submerges the fantasy. The bubble of romance, which seemed so exquisitely beautiful for a moment, vanishes with a silent pop, leaving only a small wet mark.
In other cultures, marriages are created for more practical reasons. If there is to be any affection, let it come along later.

But perhaps romantic love and marriage are incompatible. Projected fantasies seldom survive years of living together. Romantic love can be an enjoyable and harmless emotional game —as long as we don't attempt to construct our lives around it.

VI. Good-bye to Illusions, Hello to Reality.
The difficulty we might have in making ourselves 'fall in love' is not our emotional deficiency but our intellectual honesty. If we eventually become convinced that romantic love is an illusion—a web of projected fantasies and artificial feelings—
what do we do next?

We can abandon these cultural delusions and begin to establish
our relationships based on real information about each other and genuine commitment toward each other. Reality-based relationships might not have the same emotional high,but, in the long run, they are much better for us. Instead of projecting our pre-existing fantasies on others,we can get to know them as they really are
—and as the persons they are becoming.

The wild, extravagant feeling of being head-over-heels in love is certainly an enjoyable delusion while that emotional 'high' lasts,but should we attempt to build relationships on fantasy feelings?

IV. How Did We Learn the Romantic Response?
Almost from the moment of birth, we have been surrounded by the romantic ythology.
Every element of the popular culture assumes that romance is real: television, movies, novels, poetry, soap operas, advertising, popular music of every kind, newspapers, magazine, & dating services. We grew up in a milieu of romantic love. Everywhere we turn, even tho we seldom notice it, someone is making positive references to 'falling in love'.

The reason for the uniformity of our romantic beliefs and experiences is not genetic similarity, control by the gods, or a common 'human nature' —but a common cultural tradition going back to the Middle Ages. As diverse as we are, most of us pursue the same dream of romantic love. Without the help of any organized conspiracy,
hundreds of accidental elements of popular culture have shown us how to 'fall in love'.
These ever-present purveyors of the romantic mythology have shaped our deepest emotional-psychological structure: We have been programmed to respond when someone pushes the love button.

Ugh right? How gross?! Thank god its over, to make way for the real deal or maybe.. not ever! Praise the Lord. :) I am inspired to get out there and find my passion... however long it takes. My time, my love, my sacrifices, my energy will be given to something that actually gives back!