Larry is the hotness, I swear. My proboarder sweetie got me a skateboard today!! I'm 100% excited and will be riding with him soon enough or not - actually that doesnt matter. Yours truly will have a board to get around school and practice in the garage with til she can ride. Yay for fun! Now I have to get protection pads...
I wonder if I can post pics of him skating here? I will lookup some of the mags and videos he is in and see what I can find.
In other news, I have been talking to Jeff like a week now. We fall asleep together at night talking on the phone. I think he is cool and really funny, but I am not interested in hooking up with anyone else.
Having a relationship or anything like one is AT THE BOTTOM of my list of things I want in life. Actually, it's not even ON THE LIST! LOL. When I least want someone the most men want me. How weird men are. God, they are so... inconsistent. Just give me men for sex, they are useless right now for anything else I need.
More later,
S
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Quick Things, Thoughts and Happenings
I passed my Human Dev class! Yay!
I have a Exam 2 coming up for Oceanography.
I don't think I will even need a filter on my emails anymore, that Chris will never contact me again, it seems he found someone and was just looking to get out all along.
I am still hanging out with Larry and liking it.
Joey is coming to stay with me for a week - he gets off the plane - today at 4!
Work is awesome and busy and I hope I can meet their great expectations of me.
I have $3000 in medical, insurance and car bills due to that friggin accident and the police fucking me over with LIES.
Larry is hanging out tonight.
Did I say Joey is coming to LA?
I still have pain!
Yeah so thats that... things are good good and bad bad. C'est la vie!
I have a Exam 2 coming up for Oceanography.
I don't think I will even need a filter on my emails anymore, that Chris will never contact me again, it seems he found someone and was just looking to get out all along.
I am still hanging out with Larry and liking it.
Joey is coming to stay with me for a week - he gets off the plane - today at 4!
Work is awesome and busy and I hope I can meet their great expectations of me.
I have $3000 in medical, insurance and car bills due to that friggin accident and the police fucking me over with LIES.
Larry is hanging out tonight.
Did I say Joey is coming to LA?
I still have pain!
Yeah so thats that... things are good good and bad bad. C'est la vie!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Forest Home vid is up!!
Yay! Forest Home video is up. This is the retreat I went on with some friends in the most awesome mountains created by God in CA. Now I totally wish I did a dive too! :P Next time.. next time..
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Wednesday, October 8, 2008
First day of work
Whoa! Today was hectic but also quite nice. I enjoyed meeting everyone and I am feeling like getting down to business. I ate for free at Sizzler and sampled their all new menus and will be able to eat there whenever I want. I am working directly with the recipes too! They are only cooking fresh now, and with organic ingredients and also their business model is changing. Seems like a great time to be on board!
A couple things on the job are pressing immediately and the rest I think is learn as I go. The CEO's advice to me was efficiency, be aware but helpful and keep an open mind to others needs. I can do that! This position will be a great learning experience for me and also I will be able to bring my skills to the table as well.
I am thinking I will really be able to assist this executive team with my knowledge of various subjects and previous experience in various areas. I think once I get the restaurant knowledge I need to handle the database creation I will be good to go.
As their database will soon be my responsibility I will work with Keith to ensure no encroachment or changes without approvals.
Also in heavier news, here is how God worked in my life today. This should be its own entry everyday but I am not always smart enough to see it.
Today, the new hire orientation was scheduled for 8am. I prepared last night and set the alarm to begin my new job. Bus at 5:30 arrive at 7:30a. There were other plans at work. The alarm did not go off and I missed my orientation! Awaking at 8 to birds chirping (not a good sign!) I panicked and called the office and profusely apologized. I then prepared for the worst and they said this is really bad and is not acceptable for anyone. I agreed and then decided to write an email removing myself from the position with a final explanation (injury, accident, and all!) as I was pressing send, I got the callback. HR had spoken to the CEO and he felt that everyone deserves a chance and these things happen and he understands can I still come in at 10 instead? They said they feel I will be able to make a great contribution and would like to offer me the opportunity anyway. I promptly said yes and went about how the hell I was going to get there?!
I decided renting a car just for the day would be fastest and allow me to do what needed to be done. I rented a car at 9:30 they arrived to pick me up. I left at 9:45 and prayed to God, why on earth would you let me have another chance AND let me be late for the 2nd chance? Traffic miraculously went faster and I got there at 9:59 on the dot! Unbelievable how God is working in my life. Seriously..
A couple things on the job are pressing immediately and the rest I think is learn as I go. The CEO's advice to me was efficiency, be aware but helpful and keep an open mind to others needs. I can do that! This position will be a great learning experience for me and also I will be able to bring my skills to the table as well.
I am thinking I will really be able to assist this executive team with my knowledge of various subjects and previous experience in various areas. I think once I get the restaurant knowledge I need to handle the database creation I will be good to go.
As their database will soon be my responsibility I will work with Keith to ensure no encroachment or changes without approvals.
Also in heavier news, here is how God worked in my life today. This should be its own entry everyday but I am not always smart enough to see it.
Today, the new hire orientation was scheduled for 8am. I prepared last night and set the alarm to begin my new job. Bus at 5:30 arrive at 7:30a. There were other plans at work. The alarm did not go off and I missed my orientation! Awaking at 8 to birds chirping (not a good sign!) I panicked and called the office and profusely apologized. I then prepared for the worst and they said this is really bad and is not acceptable for anyone. I agreed and then decided to write an email removing myself from the position with a final explanation (injury, accident, and all!) as I was pressing send, I got the callback. HR had spoken to the CEO and he felt that everyone deserves a chance and these things happen and he understands can I still come in at 10 instead? They said they feel I will be able to make a great contribution and would like to offer me the opportunity anyway. I promptly said yes and went about how the hell I was going to get there?!
I decided renting a car just for the day would be fastest and allow me to do what needed to be done. I rented a car at 9:30 they arrived to pick me up. I left at 9:45 and prayed to God, why on earth would you let me have another chance AND let me be late for the 2nd chance? Traffic miraculously went faster and I got there at 9:59 on the dot! Unbelievable how God is working in my life. Seriously..
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Tonight
So today I was vindicated by God and the truth. The insurance company is taking my side over the police report which was obviously skewed to make me look like I was at fault.
Larry. Mmmm. More on that later. :)
Class. Also, I went to class and had words with my professor once more about my music. Am I gonna pass this class? He doesn't like my choices in sound, tempo or mixes. :( I am gonna play it safe and do it real bland like he likes it, even tho its not as fun for me that way.
Earlier. Today Jayme, Dave and Leslie came over and we made some snacks and hung out in my pool/jacuzzi. Then Dave was nice enough to take me to class. I am loving how sweet he is. Dave is becoming a close friend who is just a friend. I like it a lot. I am learning to be just friends with a guy. It's nice.
Melinda. I met with Melinda today and we talked about how at the time (back in 2005 NY) someone nice like Jon Stewart was not my type but is totally now and how that gives me a blueprint for the type of guy I will meet in the future, when I am ready for it. I described how Jon was with me, and will flesh out these man qualities a little more so I really have an idea of what I want in a godly man. Jon Stewart. Gosh he was sweet. I told her to tell him I said "hi."
Job. No job without a car, I do not yet have a car, but now that I have been proven not at fault, I will not lose my license or have to pay any money out which means I can eventually save up for one perhaps the Fit or the Mini. Now to get the other company to realize the truth and offer to pay my medical bills, it's all in Jehovah's hands.
Then another totally random thing, I get this message on my AIM while talking to Larry.
raver518: i apologize from the bottom of my heart for how i treated you when we were togeather ..i know realize
raver518: i was just in a relationship where i was at the other end ..and i was like holy shit this is what i did to SLM and i felt terrible - Sent at 8:54 PM on Tuesday
Weird huh? I guess in the end we all eventually get what we dish out - and maybe (some) realize our mistakes. Some people are big enough to apologize (above) and some are not and probably never will be (yotam/chris/brandon/johnny/gordon). I really was floored by that guy. He used to believe quite strongly in God. I will forgive him completely.
Anyway, Larry just called, chatting and then off to pray and bed!
Night!
Larry. Mmmm. More on that later. :)
Class. Also, I went to class and had words with my professor once more about my music. Am I gonna pass this class? He doesn't like my choices in sound, tempo or mixes. :( I am gonna play it safe and do it real bland like he likes it, even tho its not as fun for me that way.
Earlier. Today Jayme, Dave and Leslie came over and we made some snacks and hung out in my pool/jacuzzi. Then Dave was nice enough to take me to class. I am loving how sweet he is. Dave is becoming a close friend who is just a friend. I like it a lot. I am learning to be just friends with a guy. It's nice.
Melinda. I met with Melinda today and we talked about how at the time (back in 2005 NY) someone nice like Jon Stewart was not my type but is totally now and how that gives me a blueprint for the type of guy I will meet in the future, when I am ready for it. I described how Jon was with me, and will flesh out these man qualities a little more so I really have an idea of what I want in a godly man. Jon Stewart. Gosh he was sweet. I told her to tell him I said "hi."
Job. No job without a car, I do not yet have a car, but now that I have been proven not at fault, I will not lose my license or have to pay any money out which means I can eventually save up for one perhaps the Fit or the Mini. Now to get the other company to realize the truth and offer to pay my medical bills, it's all in Jehovah's hands.
Then another totally random thing, I get this message on my AIM while talking to Larry.
raver518: i apologize from the bottom of my heart for how i treated you when we were togeather ..i know realize
raver518: i was just in a relationship where i was at the other end ..and i was like holy shit this is what i did to SLM and i felt terrible - Sent at 8:54 PM on Tuesday
Weird huh? I guess in the end we all eventually get what we dish out - and maybe (some) realize our mistakes. Some people are big enough to apologize (above) and some are not and probably never will be (yotam/chris/brandon/johnny/gordon). I really was floored by that guy. He used to believe quite strongly in God. I will forgive him completely.
Anyway, Larry just called, chatting and then off to pray and bed!
Night!
Sunday, October 5, 2008
The quizzing of Larry has begun
Larry is taking quizzes. S is going to try to get L to take some quizzes.
I kissed a boy
Well not yet. I met a guy tonight. A skateboarder in the pouring rain on Venice Strand.
How totally random? Anyway, he owns a skateboard company and just happened to be flying to NYC in 4 hours. We ended up hanging out with him for the entire time before his flight and him taking us to this bar nearby. Vanessa wanted to get a drink..
There we learned more about him. Well, Vanessa did since she is studying Psych. LOL. His parents are separated, like mine. He just met his dad. He has lived and been all over the place, like me. He has many siblings, like me and he is cute and is 30 but looks 20, like me. She said she immediately felt attraction sparks between us and she noticed a change in us physiologically as well as physically. How odd that I did not notice that at all.
How cool right? It's awesome that as I am thinking about my ex trying to get my mind off him and his new gf, into the scene walks this skater. A perfect distraction for now if I don't say so myself. If I was back to my old tricks I would be in bed and in a relationship with this guy within the month, but I am not, that was BC and I am going in with eyes open, legs closed.
How totally random? Anyway, he owns a skateboard company and just happened to be flying to NYC in 4 hours. We ended up hanging out with him for the entire time before his flight and him taking us to this bar nearby. Vanessa wanted to get a drink..
There we learned more about him. Well, Vanessa did since she is studying Psych. LOL. His parents are separated, like mine. He just met his dad. He has lived and been all over the place, like me. He has many siblings, like me and he is cute and is 30 but looks 20, like me. She said she immediately felt attraction sparks between us and she noticed a change in us physiologically as well as physically. How odd that I did not notice that at all.
How cool right? It's awesome that as I am thinking about my ex trying to get my mind off him and his new gf, into the scene walks this skater. A perfect distraction for now if I don't say so myself. If I was back to my old tricks I would be in bed and in a relationship with this guy within the month, but I am not, that was BC and I am going in with eyes open, legs closed.
Friday, October 3, 2008
A great Needs test - that def got it right with me.
This test was able to pinpoint me to a T! I mean, wow! I actually italicized and bolded the things that were the most true for me, the good and bad. This was an amazing exercise. Now if only the website can create the guy...LOL. just kidding!
Congratulations on completing the unique “Relationship Needs Assessment.” This assessment determines what you need in a relationship across nine key factors:
Interdependence
Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
Relationship Readiness
Communication
Conflict Resolution
Sexuality
Attitudes About Love
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Your report gives you valuable feedback on each of these factors in several special ways. Based on your unique answer patterns, you first receive a synopsis of what you need in a relationship on each factor. To help you address these issues in actual practice, your report also contains a customized set of questions for you to consider asking or exploring with potential dating partners to determine the degree to which a person may meet those unique needs. In other words, you have guidance for understanding and exploring what it takes for someone to be “relationship material” with you.
Finally, the assessment reveals any specific issues that you seemed especially to under-value or over-value. These are likes and dislikes that are often hidden from your awareness, but they can strongly affect your relationship decisions. Enjoy your report, contemplate the information and insights it provides and good luck in applying the results here at this website community!
S, Your Assessment is below:
Interdependence
Interdependence refers to how much you need dependency or a “couple identity” with your partner. You are moderately interdependent in a relationship. This means that you desire a good degree of physical and emotional connection with a partner. And you absolutely are drawn to someone whom you can respect and even emulate to some degree. In fact, it is quite common for a person in this score range to consider how your romantic partner would reflect on your family and friends. This all does not mean that you do not need personal space now and then; nearly everyone values being unique and different from others in some respects. However, people in this range draw strength, comfort and a strong sense of identity from their close relationships. Thus, when you feel close to someone this person becomes an extremely important part of who you are on the inside and outside. You probably prefer that you and your partner’s recreational activities be shared together since you like having your partner physically close and you desire showing off your “couplehood” in public. Bottom line: you need someone who likes frequent physical and emotional connection like you do, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that you two do not lose your identities as individuals.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “interdependency” needs with potential partners:
“Do you think couples can ever get to the point when they spend too much time together? – and if so, how do you know when that point is?”
“How much time away from a lover do you think you need in a given week? – and what kinds of things do you like to do for yourself during your free time?”
“What really makes a date or any time with a partner truly special for you?”
Intimacy
Intimacy refers to the how much you need emotional closeness with your partner. You are very comfortable with being intimate and vulnerable with a partner. However, your desire for emotional closeness and security puts you at some risk for disclosing too much, too soon when a relationship is newly developing. People like you have big hearts and an impressive openness to your partner. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion and being generally comfortable with surrendering yourself to a partner. In fact, you probably feel very uncomfortable – and even guilty – if there were any secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you regard your lover as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is typically no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with this person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. You are willing to act on the belief that your partner’s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Therefore, you are probably not deterred in taking the risks associated with being vulnerable on all levels. Bottom line: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “intimacy” needs with potential partners:
“Under what circumstances do you think it is okay for someone to discuss details of his/her relationship with family or friends?”
“What type of issues would you talk to your friends or family about before sharing with your partner?”
“Do you think couples should have access to each other’s bank accounts, email accounts, calendars and basically all personal information?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
It would bother me if I got attached to people very easily. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not truly committed to your partner, that you are selfish and self centered, that you are superficial in your relationships or that you have unrealistic expectations. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a healthy degree of individuality and independence or that you have a good understanding of your fears.
I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you have a low self-esteem and self-image, that you are self centered, that you fear you will not live up to your partner’s expectations or that your partner will not live up to yours. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a have a good understanding of yourself and learned boundaries.
Self-efficacy
Self-Efficacy refers to your self-image, stability of mood and level of motivation. People like you are characterized by a strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment. Those who know you best would likely describe you as influential, patient and accepting of others – and calm, cool and collected most of the time. You are content with your personal qualities and feel you are an attractive person. Moreover, you probably have a good sense of control over the events in your life and are decisive in managing your life. In this sense, you likely do not overreact to circumstances as others might do. Rather, people in your scoring range are quite adaptable and are able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Additionally, you are also very influential and persuasive with others. Therefore, it is expected that family, friends and acquaintances often come to you for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. You are confident that people who are important in your life understand you, but you also tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to you, but their expectations do not strongly influence your life. Instead, people who score like you tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals – and may even set specific benchmarks to monitor the progress made toward achievements. Bottom line: you need a partner who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy like you and will support or even participate in your personal and professional interests that feed your sense of identity and accomplishment.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “self-efficacy” needs with potential partners:
“To what extent do you need a job or hobbies that allow you to express your energy and creativity?”
“Do you like solving the challenges that work and home life throw at you? Why or Why not? “
“What are some of the best ways to turn around a ‘bad day’?”
Relationship readiness
Relationship Readiness refers to how prepared you are emotionally, psychologically and pragmatically for a committed relationship. You seem to have a good foundation and appear pretty much ready and willing to find a committed relationship. In fact, most people in this scoring range have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for their life. They have the ability to connect with others, they have well defined ideas about where their life is headed and they are assertive and resourceful in meeting their goals. Therefore, you likely feel in control and are able to take charge and go after what you want in life and in a relationship. Your housekeeping is also probably in check – meaning that you do not have any negative baggage that can weigh down a relationship, like financial or legal problems or emotional, health or family issues. As such, you do not seem to be seeking a relationship primarily to fill a void in your life or to gain a feeling of acceptance and belonging that was weakened or lost due to other relationships that ended or disappointed you. Rather, it seems to be that you are striving for a balance in your life and that now includes wanting to offer everything you can to a partner. Bottom line: you need someone who wants a relationship, rather than needs one to feel personally fulfilled.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “relationship readiness” needs with potential partners:
“Tell me in what ways you are a happy and successful single”
“Are you truly happy with the way you have lived your life? Explain”
Are there any ways in which you feel your life is not balanced?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
My physical, mental or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self critical, you are overly needy and attention-seeking or that you are a person who must always manage ongoing stressors. On the positive side, it could mean that you are always striving for personal growth and achievement or that you are realistic about your life’s circumstances.
Communication
Communication refers to your approach to interpersonal interactions and level of emotional intelligence. Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence, and you seem to have an excellent level of emotional intelligence. It is expected that you show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. You have the capacity for being extremely sensitive to other’s feelings and to their body language. Those who know you well would probably describe you as patient and eager to listen to others. People in this scoring range are also not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. They consistently and bravely show vulnerability to others. In fact, they are keenly aware how their behavior impacts others. You can communicate your needs and feelings honestly when someone engages you directly, but you may not always take the initiative to be assertive with others. In this sense, it is likely that you seek to understand others, rather than seek for others to understand you. Bottom line: you need someone who will not put up emotional barriers when you seek to understand his/her thoughts and feelings, but rather will communicate with you intimately and candidly.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “communication” needs with potential partners:
“Do you ever feel afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know you really well, that s/he will like who you really are or will think less of you?”
“Do you find it difficult to trust a romantic partner completely? Explain”
“Would you feel uncomfortable telling your partner about things in the past of which you felt ashamed?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I sense when someone feels troubled before being told. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with a person’s body language, that you tend to be self absorbed or that you lack empathy. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not jump to conclusions or that you do not like to focus on negatives but instead seek out positives.
I always pay attention to people’s body language when talking to them. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with a person’s body language, that you tend to be self absorbed or that you lack empathy. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not jump to conclusions or that you do not like to focus on negatives but instead seek out positives.
Conflict resolution
Conflict Resolution refers to your stress management and problem solving skills. Effective conflict resolution has nine general elements: View Conflict as Positive; Address Conflict in the Proper Atmosphere; Clarify Perceptions; Note Needs, not wants; Draw on the Power of a Positive Partnership; Focus on the Future, then learn from the past; Identify Options for Mutual Gain; Develop ‘Doables’ or stepping stones to action; and Make Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. Your score indicates that you are fairly strong on all of these basic elements, except for Making Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. This suggests that you are very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that you settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met. You do not seem to avoid conflict; instead you appear to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage your partner to work on a positive outcome for the relationship. Bottom line: you need someone who will join you in taking time to find a complete and genuine resolution to issues as opposed to avoiding conflict by settling for quick, temporary agreements.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “conflict resolution” needs with potential partners:
“Would you say that you have a hard time accepting that some mysteries in life just can not be solved? Explain”
“Does it help you to solve problems by thinking of your own past experiences and knowledge in new ways?”
“In your experience, does knowing too much about a problem hinder or help you resolve it?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
In conflict my reactions are based on how I think the other party perceives me. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self absorbed or egotistical, that you have poor emotional intelligence or that you jump to conclusions. On the positive side, it could mean that you value individuality and independence or that you try not to posture for people.
Sexuality
Sexuality refers to your needs (frequency, boundaries, expressions) related to physical intimacy. Scientific models of love and attachment always include physical chemistry and sexuality. It is a crucial topic for any couple to address, because it involves issues of control and vulnerability. People at your scoring level have a firm sense of their sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. You like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for you sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in your relationship, and it is reserved for someone you love. You may think your sexual preferences would be viewed as conservative by others, but you are hardly a prude. You tend to be very confident in your sexual ability, you are not self conscious in bed and you are open to try various activities. People in this scoring range are willing to be vulnerable and relinquish control in the bedroom to their partners. In other words, you are not sexually selfish. While you appreciate spontaneity and wild abandon in sex, you also seem to like for sex to be planned to some extent. Most times this probably reflects the fact that you like to set the mood, build anticipation and ensure you have privacy and no interruptions. Bottom line: you need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates when it is planned to some extent rather than completely spontaneous.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “sexual” needs with potential partners:
“How important to you is preparation for sex? – and under what situations?”
“In your mind, is there any difference between ‘having sex’ and ‘making love’?”
“Do your sexual fantasies tend to involve romantic scenes and anticipation or do they trend to being more about spontaneity and unbridled passion?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I am actively experimenting with sexual activities that are new to me. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are rigid or prudish, that you jump to conclusions, that you are not open to new experiences or that you distrust your partner. On the positive side, it could mean that you know well your comfort level and limits, that you do not compromise on your values or that you do not give in to social pressures.
Attitudes toward love
Attitudes Toward Love refers to your level of needs for romantic love and friendship love. There are two main types of love – Romantic Love and Companionate Love. Romantic Love is passionate, emotional and intense, whereas Companionate Love is a deep, affectionate attachment. People feel these two types of loves to different degrees in a relationship, and the levels of each can fluctuate over time. You scored as someone who may be best described as "a realist with a touch of hopeless romantic.” This means that you do value Romantic Love, but for you a relationship must have a strong dose of Companionate Love. Thus, people in this scoring range typically believe that differences can be overcome and lasting love can be sustained if the couple does the hard of work of consistently showing mutual understanding and accommodation. In this sense, it is likely that you believe soul mates are made, not born. Bottom line: you need someone who believes that the best kind of love grows out of a strong friendship.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “love attitude” needs with potential partners:
“Do you believe that the best kind of love grows out of strong friendship?”
“In your opinion, how can a couple overcome differences on issues like religion, ethnicity, politics or social class?”
“When it comes to a romantic partner, how would define someone who is unusually well adjusted?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
A couple does not need a passionate sex life to be happy. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you have emotional baggage from past relationships, that you have low self esteem or that you are unclear about your sexual needs. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a realistic view of current life events and circumstances, that you are not preoccupied with sex or that you appreciate other, more intimate levels of connection with a partner.
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Preferred Expressions of Affection refers to your likes and dislikes for different ways a partner can express love and devotion. There are many ways in which people show affection to their loved ones: physical touch, doing favors, spending time together, giving gifts or communicating love through words. Statistically, you gave higher weighted ratings to Verbal Communication. Bottom line: You need someone who can express affection openly and directly – such as spontaneous compliments, daily “I love you’s,” occasional notes and gifts for you to find and recognition of your achievements.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“Is it important for you to hear ‘I love you’ every time you talk to your significant other?”
“Do people typically have to fish for compliments from you?”
“Do you like to exchange emails with your partner during the day… or talk for long periods on the phone when apart?”
Out of the various modes of expressing affection, Actions received lower weighted ratings from you. Bottom line: This does not necessarily mean that you neither like nor need Actions. Rather, it suggests that you need someone who feels that simple or grand acts of kindness are no substitutes for other expressions of affection – such as telling you how they feel, treating you like a partner, touching you lovingly, spending time with you or remembering special occasions with a thoughtful gift.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“In what ways – if any – do you like for a partner to depend on you?”
“Have you offered to throw a party for someone? – if so, why did you take on that responsibility?”
“What are some things you have done for other people that they would say were the most thoughtful?”
About
This test was created by the world’s foremost team of academic psychologists who specialize in personality testing, to read more about our assessment check out our FAQ page.
Copyright 2008
Congratulations on completing the unique “Relationship Needs Assessment.” This assessment determines what you need in a relationship across nine key factors:
Interdependence
Intimacy
Self-Efficacy
Relationship Readiness
Communication
Conflict Resolution
Sexuality
Attitudes About Love
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Your report gives you valuable feedback on each of these factors in several special ways. Based on your unique answer patterns, you first receive a synopsis of what you need in a relationship on each factor. To help you address these issues in actual practice, your report also contains a customized set of questions for you to consider asking or exploring with potential dating partners to determine the degree to which a person may meet those unique needs. In other words, you have guidance for understanding and exploring what it takes for someone to be “relationship material” with you.
Finally, the assessment reveals any specific issues that you seemed especially to under-value or over-value. These are likes and dislikes that are often hidden from your awareness, but they can strongly affect your relationship decisions. Enjoy your report, contemplate the information and insights it provides and good luck in applying the results here at this website community!
S, Your Assessment is below:
Interdependence
Interdependence refers to how much you need dependency or a “couple identity” with your partner. You are moderately interdependent in a relationship. This means that you desire a good degree of physical and emotional connection with a partner. And you absolutely are drawn to someone whom you can respect and even emulate to some degree. In fact, it is quite common for a person in this score range to consider how your romantic partner would reflect on your family and friends. This all does not mean that you do not need personal space now and then; nearly everyone values being unique and different from others in some respects. However, people in this range draw strength, comfort and a strong sense of identity from their close relationships. Thus, when you feel close to someone this person becomes an extremely important part of who you are on the inside and outside. You probably prefer that you and your partner’s recreational activities be shared together since you like having your partner physically close and you desire showing off your “couplehood” in public. Bottom line: you need someone who likes frequent physical and emotional connection like you do, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that you two do not lose your identities as individuals.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “interdependency” needs with potential partners:
“Do you think couples can ever get to the point when they spend too much time together? – and if so, how do you know when that point is?”
“How much time away from a lover do you think you need in a given week? – and what kinds of things do you like to do for yourself during your free time?”
“What really makes a date or any time with a partner truly special for you?”
Intimacy
Intimacy refers to the how much you need emotional closeness with your partner. You are very comfortable with being intimate and vulnerable with a partner. However, your desire for emotional closeness and security puts you at some risk for disclosing too much, too soon when a relationship is newly developing. People like you have big hearts and an impressive openness to your partner. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion and being generally comfortable with surrendering yourself to a partner. In fact, you probably feel very uncomfortable – and even guilty – if there were any secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you regard your lover as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is typically no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with this person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. You are willing to act on the belief that your partner’s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Therefore, you are probably not deterred in taking the risks associated with being vulnerable on all levels. Bottom line: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “intimacy” needs with potential partners:
“Under what circumstances do you think it is okay for someone to discuss details of his/her relationship with family or friends?”
“What type of issues would you talk to your friends or family about before sharing with your partner?”
“Do you think couples should have access to each other’s bank accounts, email accounts, calendars and basically all personal information?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
It would bother me if I got attached to people very easily. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not truly committed to your partner, that you are selfish and self centered, that you are superficial in your relationships or that you have unrealistic expectations. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a healthy degree of individuality and independence or that you have a good understanding of your fears.
I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you have a low self-esteem and self-image, that you are self centered, that you fear you will not live up to your partner’s expectations or that your partner will not live up to yours. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a have a good understanding of yourself and learned boundaries.
Self-efficacy
Self-Efficacy refers to your self-image, stability of mood and level of motivation. People like you are characterized by a strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment. Those who know you best would likely describe you as influential, patient and accepting of others – and calm, cool and collected most of the time. You are content with your personal qualities and feel you are an attractive person. Moreover, you probably have a good sense of control over the events in your life and are decisive in managing your life. In this sense, you likely do not overreact to circumstances as others might do. Rather, people in your scoring range are quite adaptable and are able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Additionally, you are also very influential and persuasive with others. Therefore, it is expected that family, friends and acquaintances often come to you for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. You are confident that people who are important in your life understand you, but you also tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to you, but their expectations do not strongly influence your life. Instead, people who score like you tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals – and may even set specific benchmarks to monitor the progress made toward achievements. Bottom line: you need a partner who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy like you and will support or even participate in your personal and professional interests that feed your sense of identity and accomplishment.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “self-efficacy” needs with potential partners:
“To what extent do you need a job or hobbies that allow you to express your energy and creativity?”
“Do you like solving the challenges that work and home life throw at you? Why or Why not? “
“What are some of the best ways to turn around a ‘bad day’?”
Relationship readiness
Relationship Readiness refers to how prepared you are emotionally, psychologically and pragmatically for a committed relationship. You seem to have a good foundation and appear pretty much ready and willing to find a committed relationship. In fact, most people in this scoring range have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for their life. They have the ability to connect with others, they have well defined ideas about where their life is headed and they are assertive and resourceful in meeting their goals. Therefore, you likely feel in control and are able to take charge and go after what you want in life and in a relationship. Your housekeeping is also probably in check – meaning that you do not have any negative baggage that can weigh down a relationship, like financial or legal problems or emotional, health or family issues. As such, you do not seem to be seeking a relationship primarily to fill a void in your life or to gain a feeling of acceptance and belonging that was weakened or lost due to other relationships that ended or disappointed you. Rather, it seems to be that you are striving for a balance in your life and that now includes wanting to offer everything you can to a partner. Bottom line: you need someone who wants a relationship, rather than needs one to feel personally fulfilled.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “relationship readiness” needs with potential partners:
“Tell me in what ways you are a happy and successful single”
“Are you truly happy with the way you have lived your life? Explain”
Are there any ways in which you feel your life is not balanced?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
My physical, mental or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self critical, you are overly needy and attention-seeking or that you are a person who must always manage ongoing stressors. On the positive side, it could mean that you are always striving for personal growth and achievement or that you are realistic about your life’s circumstances.
Communication
Communication refers to your approach to interpersonal interactions and level of emotional intelligence. Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence, and you seem to have an excellent level of emotional intelligence. It is expected that you show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. You have the capacity for being extremely sensitive to other’s feelings and to their body language. Those who know you well would probably describe you as patient and eager to listen to others. People in this scoring range are also not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. They consistently and bravely show vulnerability to others. In fact, they are keenly aware how their behavior impacts others. You can communicate your needs and feelings honestly when someone engages you directly, but you may not always take the initiative to be assertive with others. In this sense, it is likely that you seek to understand others, rather than seek for others to understand you. Bottom line: you need someone who will not put up emotional barriers when you seek to understand his/her thoughts and feelings, but rather will communicate with you intimately and candidly.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “communication” needs with potential partners:
“Do you ever feel afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know you really well, that s/he will like who you really are or will think less of you?”
“Do you find it difficult to trust a romantic partner completely? Explain”
“Would you feel uncomfortable telling your partner about things in the past of which you felt ashamed?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I sense when someone feels troubled before being told. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with a person’s body language, that you tend to be self absorbed or that you lack empathy. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not jump to conclusions or that you do not like to focus on negatives but instead seek out positives.
I always pay attention to people’s body language when talking to them. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with a person’s body language, that you tend to be self absorbed or that you lack empathy. On the positive side, it could mean that you do not jump to conclusions or that you do not like to focus on negatives but instead seek out positives.
Conflict resolution
Conflict Resolution refers to your stress management and problem solving skills. Effective conflict resolution has nine general elements: View Conflict as Positive; Address Conflict in the Proper Atmosphere; Clarify Perceptions; Note Needs, not wants; Draw on the Power of a Positive Partnership; Focus on the Future, then learn from the past; Identify Options for Mutual Gain; Develop ‘Doables’ or stepping stones to action; and Make Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. Your score indicates that you are fairly strong on all of these basic elements, except for Making Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. This suggests that you are very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that you settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met. You do not seem to avoid conflict; instead you appear to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage your partner to work on a positive outcome for the relationship. Bottom line: you need someone who will join you in taking time to find a complete and genuine resolution to issues as opposed to avoiding conflict by settling for quick, temporary agreements.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “conflict resolution” needs with potential partners:
“Would you say that you have a hard time accepting that some mysteries in life just can not be solved? Explain”
“Does it help you to solve problems by thinking of your own past experiences and knowledge in new ways?”
“In your experience, does knowing too much about a problem hinder or help you resolve it?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
In conflict my reactions are based on how I think the other party perceives me. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self absorbed or egotistical, that you have poor emotional intelligence or that you jump to conclusions. On the positive side, it could mean that you value individuality and independence or that you try not to posture for people.
Sexuality
Sexuality refers to your needs (frequency, boundaries, expressions) related to physical intimacy. Scientific models of love and attachment always include physical chemistry and sexuality. It is a crucial topic for any couple to address, because it involves issues of control and vulnerability. People at your scoring level have a firm sense of their sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. You like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for you sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in your relationship, and it is reserved for someone you love. You may think your sexual preferences would be viewed as conservative by others, but you are hardly a prude. You tend to be very confident in your sexual ability, you are not self conscious in bed and you are open to try various activities. People in this scoring range are willing to be vulnerable and relinquish control in the bedroom to their partners. In other words, you are not sexually selfish. While you appreciate spontaneity and wild abandon in sex, you also seem to like for sex to be planned to some extent. Most times this probably reflects the fact that you like to set the mood, build anticipation and ensure you have privacy and no interruptions. Bottom line: you need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates when it is planned to some extent rather than completely spontaneous.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “sexual” needs with potential partners:
“How important to you is preparation for sex? – and under what situations?”
“In your mind, is there any difference between ‘having sex’ and ‘making love’?”
“Do your sexual fantasies tend to involve romantic scenes and anticipation or do they trend to being more about spontaneity and unbridled passion?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I am actively experimenting with sexual activities that are new to me. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are rigid or prudish, that you jump to conclusions, that you are not open to new experiences or that you distrust your partner. On the positive side, it could mean that you know well your comfort level and limits, that you do not compromise on your values or that you do not give in to social pressures.
Attitudes toward love
Attitudes Toward Love refers to your level of needs for romantic love and friendship love. There are two main types of love – Romantic Love and Companionate Love. Romantic Love is passionate, emotional and intense, whereas Companionate Love is a deep, affectionate attachment. People feel these two types of loves to different degrees in a relationship, and the levels of each can fluctuate over time. You scored as someone who may be best described as "a realist with a touch of hopeless romantic.” This means that you do value Romantic Love, but for you a relationship must have a strong dose of Companionate Love. Thus, people in this scoring range typically believe that differences can be overcome and lasting love can be sustained if the couple does the hard of work of consistently showing mutual understanding and accommodation. In this sense, it is likely that you believe soul mates are made, not born. Bottom line: you need someone who believes that the best kind of love grows out of a strong friendship.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “love attitude” needs with potential partners:
“Do you believe that the best kind of love grows out of strong friendship?”
“In your opinion, how can a couple overcome differences on issues like religion, ethnicity, politics or social class?”
“When it comes to a romantic partner, how would define someone who is unusually well adjusted?”
Food for Thought! This website wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
A couple does not need a passionate sex life to be happy. - Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you have emotional baggage from past relationships, that you have low self esteem or that you are unclear about your sexual needs. On the positive side, it could mean that you have a realistic view of current life events and circumstances, that you are not preoccupied with sex or that you appreciate other, more intimate levels of connection with a partner.
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Preferred Expressions of Affection refers to your likes and dislikes for different ways a partner can express love and devotion. There are many ways in which people show affection to their loved ones: physical touch, doing favors, spending time together, giving gifts or communicating love through words. Statistically, you gave higher weighted ratings to Verbal Communication. Bottom line: You need someone who can express affection openly and directly – such as spontaneous compliments, daily “I love you’s,” occasional notes and gifts for you to find and recognition of your achievements.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“Is it important for you to hear ‘I love you’ every time you talk to your significant other?”
“Do people typically have to fish for compliments from you?”
“Do you like to exchange emails with your partner during the day… or talk for long periods on the phone when apart?”
Out of the various modes of expressing affection, Actions received lower weighted ratings from you. Bottom line: This does not necessarily mean that you neither like nor need Actions. Rather, it suggests that you need someone who feels that simple or grand acts of kindness are no substitutes for other expressions of affection – such as telling you how they feel, treating you like a partner, touching you lovingly, spending time with you or remembering special occasions with a thoughtful gift.
Next, This website presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“In what ways – if any – do you like for a partner to depend on you?”
“Have you offered to throw a party for someone? – if so, why did you take on that responsibility?”
“What are some things you have done for other people that they would say were the most thoughtful?”
About
This test was created by the world’s foremost team of academic psychologists who specialize in personality testing, to read more about our assessment check out our FAQ page.
Copyright 2008
Yesterday
Praise the Lord as always he has had my best interests in mind, just when I am giving up he doesn't. I went to the hospital (a different one) yesterday. Dave took me. He is sweet to do that for Jesus. Why does he have a servants heart? I don't know but I am lucky to have him as a friend. Jayme met us there and was so sweet too. They both waited patiently while I got seen 3 times in the same sitting.
So the way it looks now is I have a job offer. Yay! I couldn't feel more blessed and I have no idea of the outcome of the accident report situation, but I am letting go and trusting in God and this is how he is repaying me for doing so prior.
He has given me less pain, fixed my only pair of glasses for free, given me a good job that will allow me to go to school and that I can maybe even love and give my varied skills to (not just any as I was hunting for), that will pay for all my expenses and taught me humility, patience and self-control and offered friends & family guidance through the whole thing! Plus, he has put it in John and Vanessa's heart to carpool with me to school on Saturdays and Tuesdays as I will not have a car. I am going to take some preliminary trips to Culver City in the next couple days to make sure I can do this transportation trip on a daily basis. Praise the Lord, without Him I would be suicidal and so lost!
So the way it looks now is I have a job offer. Yay! I couldn't feel more blessed and I have no idea of the outcome of the accident report situation, but I am letting go and trusting in God and this is how he is repaying me for doing so prior.
He has given me less pain, fixed my only pair of glasses for free, given me a good job that will allow me to go to school and that I can maybe even love and give my varied skills to (not just any as I was hunting for), that will pay for all my expenses and taught me humility, patience and self-control and offered friends & family guidance through the whole thing! Plus, he has put it in John and Vanessa's heart to carpool with me to school on Saturdays and Tuesdays as I will not have a car. I am going to take some preliminary trips to Culver City in the next couple days to make sure I can do this transportation trip on a daily basis. Praise the Lord, without Him I would be suicidal and so lost!
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Gov't banking - look into your history for the reality of this
It could happen. I don't want it to, but it could happen. Heck, these days it seems likely...actually after reading the news, lol it is happening. The banks will be bought out by the government. This is not just occurring here, around the world the governments are getting involved with the banking systems, and therefore, the currency. The sh*t* is about to hit the fan.
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Babylon-falls-first/
If this were to occur it would be good to know the following.
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-in-the-Woods
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Living-Hell
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Nuclear-Attack
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Chemical-or-Biological-Attack
Wanna know if your ready? Take the test here!
The What Would You Do in a Global Economic Crisis? Test
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Babylon-falls-first/
If this were to occur it would be good to know the following.
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-in-the-Woods
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Living-Hell
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Nuclear-Attack
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-a-Chemical-or-Biological-Attack
Wanna know if your ready? Take the test here!
The What Would You Do in a Global Economic Crisis? Test
Monday, September 29, 2008
Non-Holy Crap
http://www.storyofstuff.com/
This is unbelievable and unfortunately true.
This is a teaser video - the WHOLE video (please dont be A.D.D and watch it) is at the above link.
This is unbelievable and unfortunately true.
This is a teaser video - the WHOLE video (please dont be A.D.D and watch it) is at the above link.
My Interesting Job?
Well, I went for an interview this am and will possibly be getting a job as an SP. This is a famous medical term for a position called a "Standardized Patient". This position makes it possible for me to pay for and attend school regularly. It is flexible and allows me to work in a structured albeit videotaped environment and is quite satisfying knowing that the kids that are going out there to heal have had some initial testing and practice before hand!
It also happens to be located in a swell nearby town called El Segundo which is really close to my house and doesn't require me to drive if I were to lose my license.
Some more on my possible new job.
Human Guinea Pig
SP in action
Try it on for size in less than 12 seconds (though note: these "patient cases" train for months first at paid salaries)
It also happens to be located in a swell nearby town called El Segundo which is really close to my house and doesn't require me to drive if I were to lose my license.
Some more on my possible new job.
Human Guinea Pig
SP in action
Try it on for size in less than 12 seconds (though note: these "patient cases" train for months first at paid salaries)
Sunday, September 28, 2008
The Battle ship and the Cruise Ship
We’ve grown complacent, Satan’s favorite tactic. So this cruise ship/battleship analogy so speaks to that as it pertains to the kind of bosy we are a part of developing. When you go on a cruise, you look for the boat with all the stuff, that is going to cater to YOUR every want and desire. You’re going to stuff yourself silly at the midnight buffet. Look for all the activities (pool, swimming, dancing, eating, tennis, etc) you can handle at every port and give a cursory thought to the personal responsibilities you have in case of emergency. Other than that you’re going to sit back and ingest and be served throughout the entire voyage. Then when it’s over you’re going to get off the boat without much thought to the ship and the staff ever again. Maybe throw a couple dollars in tips to the crew and feel good about yourself. Maybe next time you’ll maybe jump on a newer, bigger, better, for a bit a more exciting ship in padded, comfortable luxury. If there’s a war going on, do you really want to be in a war zone on a cruise ship?
Contrast that to the battleship. It’s all gray, and maybe has a TV and a weight room if you’re lucky. In WWII, the last major use of battleships, those too were unheard luxuries. The food was not that great, and if you were at sea for any length of time, all fresh food was gone and you were stuck eating out of cans, literally. Your bunk gave you about 6 inches between your nose and the bunk about with a small locker for all of your belongings and a shared bathroom that you were responsible to clean yourself. Not to mention necessary painting, scrubbing and cleaning that everyone participated in all the time. You weren’t served or catered to. You served and catered. You didn’t have snorkeling and jet skis to look forward to. If you were lucky you got 1 can of beer and a couple hours of baseball on the beach before it was back to work loading and fitting out the ship for the next journey. When you went in to battle you were singled out by the enemy because you were on the biggest ship with the biggest guns. Constantly under threat of attack, manning the guns almost constantly, putting your life on the line. If you come on board brand new, it’s not easy, but you know you’re part of something bigger than you, with long term purpose. The old ones train and teach you to become a part of the crew and fulfill your role to its fullest. And you know the sailors on those ships fight valiantly for each other and for the bigger cause. They willingly sail into the war zone. This is what Paul talks about. When you leave the cruise ship you feel no ownership, no connection. When you serve as a part of the crew of a battleship you’re a part of that crew for life! It’s no fleeting fling to the Bahamas…their life is wrapped up in fighting and maybe dying for that ship and the cause it represents. They willingly give up the comforts and trappings of the cushy cruise ship to fight and battle for something that literally changes the world.
That’s the kind of people I want to be surrounded with. …however, just as with any ship, whether you choose to believe in God or not, heaven and hell or not, do His will or not, we have 100% free will to do what we want given by a freedom loving God. Even a fool knows there will definitely be an end and both these boats will eventually dock to their final destinations regardless of what we choose to believe and do with our time here on Earth. I want to man the battleship we're on and do the right thing.
Contrast that to the battleship. It’s all gray, and maybe has a TV and a weight room if you’re lucky. In WWII, the last major use of battleships, those too were unheard luxuries. The food was not that great, and if you were at sea for any length of time, all fresh food was gone and you were stuck eating out of cans, literally. Your bunk gave you about 6 inches between your nose and the bunk about with a small locker for all of your belongings and a shared bathroom that you were responsible to clean yourself. Not to mention necessary painting, scrubbing and cleaning that everyone participated in all the time. You weren’t served or catered to. You served and catered. You didn’t have snorkeling and jet skis to look forward to. If you were lucky you got 1 can of beer and a couple hours of baseball on the beach before it was back to work loading and fitting out the ship for the next journey. When you went in to battle you were singled out by the enemy because you were on the biggest ship with the biggest guns. Constantly under threat of attack, manning the guns almost constantly, putting your life on the line. If you come on board brand new, it’s not easy, but you know you’re part of something bigger than you, with long term purpose. The old ones train and teach you to become a part of the crew and fulfill your role to its fullest. And you know the sailors on those ships fight valiantly for each other and for the bigger cause. They willingly sail into the war zone. This is what Paul talks about. When you leave the cruise ship you feel no ownership, no connection. When you serve as a part of the crew of a battleship you’re a part of that crew for life! It’s no fleeting fling to the Bahamas…their life is wrapped up in fighting and maybe dying for that ship and the cause it represents. They willingly give up the comforts and trappings of the cushy cruise ship to fight and battle for something that literally changes the world.
That’s the kind of people I want to be surrounded with. …however, just as with any ship, whether you choose to believe in God or not, heaven and hell or not, do His will or not, we have 100% free will to do what we want given by a freedom loving God. Even a fool knows there will definitely be an end and both these boats will eventually dock to their final destinations regardless of what we choose to believe and do with our time here on Earth. I want to man the battleship we're on and do the right thing.
Surface Tension and Microgravity
This is a great video! Check it!
Surface tension of water in microgravity 3
Surface tension of water in microgravity 3
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