Letters to God 4

Today is effing horrible. Looking forward to tomorrow. I am having a REALLY tough time today. I am almost suicidal but not so fast, I am not going to let the wicked one have his way - not just yet. I just need to find a way to get through this valley with bad back, neck, legs and serious obstacles that seem almost impossible to face.

I will remember other obstacles that I have obviously overcome, because my ass is still alive.

1) Brandon deserting the car and having to retrieve the information and vehicle to go on MY record.
b) Brandon getting us evicted and having all the negative info go on MY record.
2) Being tied down and having a gun put to my head and being forced to stay silent while crying and trying to get for Brandon to help.
3) Chris pushing me down and having to care for myself and be in pain in every time I moved.
b) Chris treating me horribly for much of our relationship.
4) Being homeless and having no money to eat, or a place to shower or go to the bathroom.
5) Being physically abused by my stepfather - having a rocking chair thrown at me, being dragged by my hair, being beaten with a belt and welting, being emotionally abused hearing daily how I was so stupid, and so dramatic, and such a weakling.
6) With Herman being surprise attacked and thrown in front of a car, hurting my arms, head and chest.
7) Being sexually abused in the hospital after 2nd degree burning my leg and trying to get treated there having to walk through the snow during a blizzard.
8) Leaving home as a teen and being unsure and scared of my future or what lay ahead of me "out there" away from home.
9) Feeling alone and scared in the middle of Newark after being raped and thrown out of the car.
10) The countless times I felt abandoned and unwanted by so many people who I reached out to that just were not there for me.
11) Being tricked by Tanya to come to her house so the boys could abuse me and molest me while she watched and they laughed.
12) Being threatened to be beaten up by Tanya, and countless other people.
13) Having people lie about me and say things that were not true. Like that I was an alcoholic in 6th grade, that I was a drug addict in 8th grade, that I was a slut - sleeping around in HS (when I hadn't even lost my virginity or drank) or that I was speeding when I wasn't, or that I am at fault for an accident when I clearly wasnt.
14) Not being allowed on the Path train for fear of being stabbed if I got on. Being attacked with Bastion for me "being/looking like" a Muslim after 9/11.
15) In 1998 and 2007 having my music stolen twice. Having my music rights taken away from me and being forced not to record, or release any songs or any pictures of myself as the artist.
16) Having naked pictures of me taken by a friend leaked out onto the internet after my record release.
17) Having my mom not believe me about things that my stepfather did to me when I was young.
18) Being made fun of daily at the bus stop by kids in my neighborhood.
19) Not graduating HS and being hospitalized for my suicide attempt.
20) Being completely crushed, smothered and suffocated under 100s of people at a concert.

I am sure there are more.. but those are just some. I don't want to go on... I think after writing that, I will somehow get over this horrible days events of people lying about me and once again losing everything I've worked for. Blessed are those who mourn, right mah nukka? Luke 6:20

I will try to praise...

With that, my letters to God for Sept.
9/28/08
Dear Jehovah,
If I am in the waiting room what can I do but patiently wait? This is YOU we are talking about. Lord I am in your hands. I am going to try harder to let go and to just trust in you. Thank you for trying me and making me stronger though I had not seen it til recently.

Thank you for never leaving me alone and giving me wisdom and guidance through wonderful others in my life who genuinely care. I have amazing friends. AMAZING! You answered my prayers to this plea - I thank you and fall in reverence!

I also see that its up to me to be independent and act independently for your will. Thank you for putting in MY heart to leave a negative situation and for giving me the strength and self respect to go and to not even desire looking back for someone who so obviously was not on the lookout for you or an "us".

I am going to try Math once again Lord. Perhaps you want to light the way? Right now my career possibilities are lawyer, scientist, missionary, systems analyst, biotech, computer hardware, or related science jobs with a microscope. Lead the way Lord, close the doors that need to be closed and open the ones that you want to open to get me there. Thank you so much for everything! Please bless my family, friends, enemies,
and K., C., L., Reb, An, As, and C's mom and family. Deliver us from the evil one, in the name of your Son, Amen.

9/27/08
What have I lost? (A quick recognition of investments in feeling I have made and lost)
I have lost a friend and close relationship that had good and very bad qualities.
I have lost a car and good driving reputation possibly.
I have lost my security blanket and retreat protection.
I have lost $7,000 in earnings from 2005.
I have lost neck/back mobility and youthful aggression, looks and confidence.
I have lost the ability to trust a man to be safe and honest.
I have lost the desire to date someone emotionally unavailable or ungodly.

9/25/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you so much for my sight and being able to go to a worship with the girls. I was nervous about prayer and saying your name and them not know it, needlessly. I realized I too have pride and selfishness holding me back from many things on my way to you. I always ask you to bring me closer, not realizing it is through these painful experiences that you actually get me there! You are making me stronger Lord! Praise you! Your will be done with this situation of lies and coverups on the driver/police side. Pleas help me through this. I am going to try once again to give you the glory and by Friday I will no longer wear the neck brace and let my neck hold up this head. I will work on healing and not forgetting you. I do not forget you when I am well and healthy, I am just motivated to do better for myself.. AHA! I see. Its not about that is it? Oh Lord I am lucky to have you. Please forgive me for acting a fool. Why is it hard to submit? Please forgive me. In Jesus's name. Amen.

PS Please help Am. find her partner who will lead her where you want her. Corey to lean on you, learn to say no and to be bold in her approach. As. with her car situation and her Visa which is taking forever for her. In your time but give her patience for it, Lord. Help her brother and K. and J. find their career paths leading to your glory. Please help Reb and A. as they are in grave need Father for your comfort, support and love in their situation with Ash's sickness and R. taking on double duties! Please give An. a passion strong for you to witness and help her to rid herself of procrastination habits that no longer serve her in serving her students. If it be your will for me to find a good job and a car safely to ride in so be it. Thank you Lord. Amen.

9/23/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise you again today! My day has been a true nightmare, but I am thankful for some things and thought I might look at those instead while praising you, one of which was giving me the strength to walk to the Hermosa Beach Police Dept and the money to take the bus back. Two, was the beauty of today and the blessing of Steve (from my Feminism group) to give me a ride to class so that I could actually not miss it and our great meeting/discussion on Immigration afterward. It was a nice gesture and I gave him some gas money.

Three was speaking to Karin and once again her rallying to my weak ass side in helping by having my small voice heard by the police tomorrow and her seemingly not giving up on me as I let go and prepare to lose my apt and sell my things. Four was speaking to Julie (from Oceanography class) about a possible job lead and her unreligious words of encouragement which were, get this, "do not doubt yourself or give up this situation to Satan." "You are better and stronger than this." She said that! Praise you Lord. I needed to hear it.

Five was I got to apologize for being judgemental to the 2 Orange people in my class and give you glory by being accountable. Six, was that I did not get raped on campus though injured and alone waiting outside as there have been some of 3 or 4 recently nearby? Seven, was I had no inclination to speak to Chris or compulsion to call him or smoke, and this is a very tough time for me-usually prime to give in to bad impulses.

Eight is thank you, thank you,thank you for less pain today that the previous days! I feel truly blessed and horrified at the same time. I am again putting it all in your hands and having faith. This situation is literally the only thing on my mind right now, so all this I pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ, Amen.


9/20/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for this wonderful day and messages from the congregation not to give up to have faith in you through this hard time. I just realized I am under attack. This is part 1 of the persecution I am always asking to prepare me for. I see now that you have allowed all this to happen for many reasons not just 1. I am realizing finally that i need to give the outcome to you and just have faith while working to be proactive in my own pain.

Since my baptism, I am just realizing I have been under spiritual attack! I did not know or see it until tonight. Almost got me, but.. praise you! I will give you the glory and praise. Even my accident is to work for that end. I will use the limbs I have left to still go where you lead. I want to hear your voice like David. Please keep me strong Father under this attack, give me wisdom to act and know. I trust in you. I submit. The doctors are ignoring me. I have no one to help. I am being attacked by the police. I trust in you.

Please bless A. in his recovery from surgery and give E. your love so she may love herself and her body and stop hurting herself. Give her acceptance and comfort Lord as only you can. All these things I pray, beg, & give thanks in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

9/19/08
Hello Lord! Praise you! Thank you for giving me the use of my legs and arms still and the accident not being as bad as it could have been. You saved me. Lord, I really want to beg you once more for the last time to please put an answer in Chris's heart that is plain and direct for what the status is moving forward. Please let us stop this merry go round of indecision and wishy washyness. Lord, I just spoke to Chris and praise you! No answer is an answer. He said "well, I don't know" once more! Once more he does not know. I deserve better treatment with someone stronger purposed and more thoughtful/generous. He deserves someone he can joke around with/insult and have sex with anytime he wants who doesn't believe in God or have any strong morals. He can "not know" with someone else now. He spent more time with his new roommates anyway. This is a pattern for him and I am over it. Instead of putting it in his heart, you put it here, it is in mine. "I don't know" means "No." because it definitely wasn't "Yes, I want to work on things, Yes, I want you and Yes, I want to change the things that aren't working and HERE IS HOW I THINK I WILL DO IT." Also, I was not going to be getting back with him immediately anyway or having sex with him.

"Doubt is a don't". :) that was enough for me. I am tired of his confusion, lack of purpose (except with his amount of work and skating) and his generally mismatching qualities to mine. We do not have the same values, we do not want the same things in life and we don't even believe in the same commands of God. This person has had me "on hold" for about 2 months since July when he said he didn't love me anymore, then changed his mind and expected life and limb turnaround from me toward marriage and now again has said he does not know. I am not wasting anymore of my time and whats worse is prior to this he treated me absolutely horrid and despicable. I gave him chance after chance. Says a lot about where I was and where I am now. Nonetheless, I have given enough of my hope, my body, my energy, my time, my miles, my love, my understanding and patience. I am done. In your sons name I pray and give thanks, Amen.

9/19/08
My last two weeks.
Last week, today I was flying back to CA in a Virgin A place at 11:30a and sitting in the airport reading - furious about the shrinking state of privacy in this country.

Monday the 8th I took a flight to the east coast to see my family, move my things and prepare for the school year in CA. I got in at 630a - my Dad picked me up. While driving back he mentioned how in love he was with his wife and how they are closer now than they have ever been. How sweet, I thought. Until her birthday, Tuesday, the next day. I took the car earlier to get some boxes for the move and my dad had remained sleeping all day until my return at 3:00 so he could pick her up from work.

When his wife returned home (which he so "loves") from work he proceeded to speak down to her and yell at her and left the house. What an jerk, I thought. I will never marry or stay married to someone who would treat me that way on my birthday or be so selfish & belligerent. I thought of Chris for a moment and then my father came in with birthday cake candles and 2 party favors, slammed them on the table and said "there! happy fucking birthday!" and walked out to his studio disappearing for the rest of the night. This made me also think of Chris and his current gift giving habits, and complete lack of gift giving and really sweet generosity since our first breakup.

I recognized similar selfishness and excuses with "I have work, I'm stressed from work" and Dad's "I'm in the studio, I have to record" which is generally sleeping in my Dads case and laziness or buying himself something instead in Chris's case.

Never again will there be a shopping spree or nice dinners or even out dancing with Chris, those methods of attracting someone are long gone and will be for some "new" person he meets in his future and takes on this role - then she too will get eventually the same treatment as me.

So.. I celebrated with Myra and she drank heavily and talked about my father being against her taking self defense courses. My brother had made her a cake and was practicing in the kitchen with my cousin Mike. She had gifts from strangers on the table and made dinner for herself and us and went to bed possibly drunk and sad. Then late in the evening Oscar their dog, ate my only pair of glasses and I was enraged and tried to take his life.

Wed was spent fretting about packing. Fretting over the move, what would happen my things (what if they don't make it there!? What if someone steals them? etc), determining what to pack, I felt alone and scared. Then later that night some friends from church called and shed light and prayed with me. Afterward, I read Karins' words (Colossians 3:1-4) from the night before and realized, "this is just stuff!" "I must let this go?! "I'm not here for this, this is not more important than my relations with my family or my new path". From that time on I packed not even worrying if it would get to CA. On Thursday I got to actually spend time with my grandparents, mom and aunt and uncle and the children. We had an awesome dinner and I had cuddle moments with the g'rents. Late Thursday night I was notified I would not have a ride to the airport so I scrambled trying to find someone to take me. I begged Shahn. He picked me up at 5:30a and we were off to catch my flight.

Thank goodness I did not marry Shahn or have kids with him, I thought to myself as he described his flesh and blood daughter as "yeah, I have a kid I like sometimes and spend time with her a couple night a week at the park" and talked more of himself, his architecture designs and projects and other women he has than the child. This seems to be the extent of Shahn's capability of being emotionally available to a person or child. His wife is one "of convenience" and he has "outside relationships"> Not for me. One good thing about Shahn and this was one of his better qualities in our relationship previously, is that his wife knows he has these. He doesn't hide it or keep secrets. Shahn is honest, sometimes brutally honest but it was greatly appreciated and respected.

I got on the plane and saw Perry Farrell of Jane's Addiction/Lollapalooza fame. I arrived early from my flight in CA and my phone was dying and no ride home scheduled! Desperate I thought of who could be reliable to call? Chris? No, because I had not heard from him since Tuesday and last we spoke he had said briefly in passing "No, you know I don't have a car, but if I can pick you up I will do my best".

Anyway, later that day he said he felt very angry with me that he had "skated all the way there and I did not even call or wait for him after arriving early". Here I was, having arrived an hour and half early, with things i couldn't carry or protect, having one call to make, not even knowing if he would be picking me up, not having heard from him since Tuesday and him never actually saying for sure he would be there, on top of me knowing he did not have an available car, he fully expected me to not only read his mind that he would come, but also wait for him, when I did not at all think he would be there. Really, reflecting back on my previous posts of him would YOU have called this person who also did not have a car at the time? I called Corey who was already circling the airport.

Nonetheless, I felt bad that he went there so I drove to his new house to comfort him and to apologize. Instead of forgiving me and understanding my point as well, we got into another argument and this caused large problems for us lasting til after a truck hit me after which we've stopped talking completely. I do not know what all the meaning in this is but I give the outcome to you, God, and pray for your will. This last Monday through Thursday were spent planning, unpacking (all packages arrived safely) and attending school, and basically trying to get on with my life. I hope God will put it in Chris's indecisive heart to decide what the hell he wants, and am getting tired of asking. Once and for all - no hard feelings - but please, man, give an answer, and let's have some action either way.

9/16/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for this beautiful day. Thank you for me making it home from NY safely! I beg you today for your messages to be made clear to me. I do not understand everything I read and 2nd guess. I am goin to keep a list of these so I may research them.

Jehovah please continue to put it in mine & Chris's heart to be good and kind to one another without looking at the past. It's hurting our friendship. Do you want us to be friends? Please help me remain focused only on you, your law and school and working toward a career in whatever your will for me is.

I would like to pray for C. that she have peace from the evil one and get strength from you to fight.

I would like to pray for you to remove Chris's compulsive need to be sexual and to be able to see how that hurts you. Open his eyes to why he is doing is a sin. If you do not want us to be together please give me a sure sign. Remove him please if you want us to be apart. I am drifted off from you in my relationship with him, and he is not a godly righteous man after your heart, of that I know for sure. If you do want us together please give me a real sign that I can see! He puts work before you, he puts pleasure before you and he has very little faith that I can see. He is still in my life and we are sinning and I don't want to, and I don't think he really cares either way. He is lukewarm toward you. You are the seed that fell on thorns for him, choked by worldly worries and desires. I don't want to sin against you, I know I was bought at a very high price and I appreciate that sacrifice. Remove him completely so I may not sin with him. Put it in his heart to make a decision!

I am sorry for judging the orange group. It was wrong of me and I am glad I now have a conscience to realize these things, thank you Lord. Please give me discernment in determining right info from wrong/false doctrine. I can be prideful and stubborn and want to be rid of these shortcomings. Help me work on them please. Be with me today Jehovah and allow me the feeling of your presence and see your wonders, I beg you. You alone are mighty,you alone are great and I offer myself to you to determine your will for me. I trust in you. I give the outcomes to you. Your servant, in Jesus's name, Amen.


9/9/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise to you! I have so many things to be sorry about and thankful for today. Thank you for teaching me a lesson in humility and me being able to remember why I came and that the glory for everything is to go to you, not me! I know I forgot this and my life is at stake! Please give me the wisdom to keep this in my heart in the future. I am sorry for behaving cruelly and murderously toward the dog Oscar. This behavior was uncalled for and not the actions of your loving servant and Christian. I did not exhibit the fruits of the spirit and still speak of him with hatred in my heart. Please forgive me Lord. I will forgive him. I need to remove this anger and show kindness.

I am sorry for using your name in vain , I do not know why I continue doing this! I will work harder. This is against your law and I want to live by the law AND meditate on it night and day. Psalm 1.

I want to pray for my family to come to know you, but if it is to be through me, i have much more work to do on myself! I do not want to follow the world and that now means not using "credit" so be it. I know if I am in step with you I will be out of step with the selfish and fleshly desires of the world. Please help me Lord. I do not know my next steps. I need you. I need you! I need your wisdom and eyes to show me what i need to see and the strength to help me fight it. I beg you. I do not want to fall away or be misled. I do not want to let you down as I have. I want to get closer to you and love you and learn more about becoming like Jesus through reading the Bible. All these things I pray, beg, & give thanks in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

PS I am sorry for:
hurting Oscar verbally, suffocating him, choking him, holding him down, using the towel and shoes on him
using your name in vain
not giving you glory in those terrible actions
not witnessing your good news in my 2 opportunities
being envious, proud and angry and foolish this week
forgetting that it is all in your hands and letting go of controlling outcomes

9/12/08
How do I feel?
hopeful, blessed, curious, focused, nostalgic/introspective

hopeful because I feel supported and driven to succeed in what I am doing in LA. I am not feeling unsure or inconsistent. I've made a commitment and I am sticking to it.
blessed I feel so lucky and so blessed to be in my position. I want to spread the joy and blessing to those who are not.
curious because, can i keep it all up? i need to keep going strong. i need to just be myself and do me without selfishness or self consciousness.
focused because i feel driven once more and focused to make the best of where I am and what i have.
nostalgic/intro because i like I have learned a lot from Forest Home and from my trip home to see my family. I see I have a long way to go to get to where I want to be but reflecting and meditation on it will help me put it in perspective.

GOALS THIS WEEK
look for work
study for tests
organize papers
follow-up car and tune up and car wash
get into studio

9/7/08
Dear Jehovah,
Good morning! I love you. Thank you for blessing me with money and a quick flight to go back home with. You put it in my dads heart to help. This has been a tough and scary decision. Today I will try to remain internet free and in nature - eat well and exercise. Today I will work hard at not smoking or calling Chris. Please show me your will for us and for me with a job! I need you Jehovah. In Jesus's name, Amen.

9/4/08
Praise to you today My Lord! I am sorry I have not written in the last 2 days though I have been conversing with you. Jehovah thank you so much for your blessings. Though I am going blind and I am fearful I put everything in your loving hands. This will be your teachings to me. Where are you Lord? Am I making you smile today? Have I been kind? I have been swearing a lot at drivers. Have I been loving? Understanding? Honest? Moral? Non-sexual? To most of these I would claim yes. Lord please watch over me and give me strength to carry on. Please let your will be done in regards to new positions and moving here for school. Take me in the direction of your way. I need to speak to Pastor Steve, please give me courage.

Thank you for no pain today and having the money to eat food and care for myself. Please let me help others in need. Those who are blind, those who are disabled and those who have been abused. I feel I am truly relating to those conditions because of your compassionate influence in my life and having been through them! Thank you Jesus for saving sinners. I cannot serve God & Mammon at the same time, I know. Show me the way to creating music for you Lord if that is your will. I will reach out to Hope & other musical ones at church also. All these things I pray in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

9/4/08
How am I feeling?
motivated, blessed, confused, curious, cautious, supported, frustrated, desperate

motivated because i want to do well in school, take care of myself, quit smoking and help others.
blessed because I feel so lucky to be alive and so much the Father has given me!
confused because why do these urges for bad stay? i do not know why i run to the bad sometimes. (Romans 7:15-25)
curious because I am interested to see what the future holds for me and what I can do proactively.
cautious because I am not getting back into that relationship without changes long term and desires voiced and me truly determining that it is what I want and that this is Gods will.
supported because my peeps are keeping me accountable and cking in on me periodically. yay!
frustrated because I keep making silly mistakes! not thinking things through first.
desperate because i need cash! i need to work and make money happen to be able to support myself and a healthy lifestyle.

9/1/08
Father do you think I am lost? I want to do your will and give you glory in all my actions. I hope for your Word to open up to me and to keep you first and foremost in life. I appreciate the opportunity to go to Forest Home Father and share w/ those who put you first and have been deemed worthy by you to spread your message.

Please show me the way to you and shine a light on my path. I love you Lord and do not want to be led astray by false prophets or churches. Show me what you want me to do and where to go please? Your will be done in my life. As I said to you today I only want to worship you and follow your law. Thank you for your beauty and presence. Thank you for your love and comfort. Thank you for giving me a day without pain. Please bless those in need Father who are in remote parts without food, water and shelter to survive and who do not know of your sacrifice and gift. All these things I pray in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

8/30/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for today. I appreciate all your wonderful gifts and you keep on giving. Please bless us all we need it. Through the name of your son, Jesus - Amen.

After my baptism - I was under attack

Since my baptism, I am just realizing I have been under spiritual attack! I did not know or see it until tonight. In the last couple weeks I have been saddled with situations that caused - many doubts, anger, guilt, sadness, lying, grief over loss, selfishness, loneliness, and finally being physically beaten down once more by the wicked one - through it all, I was definitely wandering away and feeling lost and losing sight of what is in fact righteous and my path. Almost got me, but.. praise be to God! He wasn't letting me go out like that, gave me the strength to drop the indecision, surrounded me with men and women of true faith and example and reigned me back in, teaching me a lesson in the process.

However broken, alone and penniless with the darkness def closing in and walking through the valley of the death, it's time to return and refocus my eyes to the Lord - there can be no other way. It is not too late for me to repent, put on the shield of faith and armor of the Word and the example of Jesus. Blessed be!

Blessed be your name
In the land that is plentiful
Where the streams of abundance flow
Blessed be your name

Blessed be your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed be your name

Every blessing you pour out, I turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord still I will say...

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be your glorious name

Blessed be your name
When the sun's shining down on me
When the world's all as it should be
Blessed be your name

Blessed be your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be your name

Every blessing you pour out, I turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord still I will say...
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be your glorious name

You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, Blessed be your name

I'm Green, with a little Blue

So here are some things I am learning about my career choices in my human development class this week and some "natural" matches to my natural skills and "natural" personality traits. ????

Apparently I am whats called a ENTJ. ENTJs represent between 2 and 5% of the U.S. population. Good luck for my finding the "others" here! LOL

More on that here >>
http://www.personalitypage.com/ENTJ.htmlTRADEMARK: -- "I'm really sorry you have to die." http://typelogic.com/entj.html

and A "Rational" Fieldmarshal http://www.advisorteam.org/the_four-temperaments/temp_rational_fieldmarshal.html

My Green Values
Autonomy
Competence
Creativity
Cool headed under pressure
Ethics
Fairness
Future orientation
Ideas
Intelligence
Focus
Rationality
Objectivity
Precise Language
Self Confidence
Truth
Wisdom
Vision

Blue Values
Authenticity
Being acknowledged
Honesty
Individuality
Love
Romance
Relationships
Public Contact
Self Understanding
Spirituality
Sincerity
Trustworthiness

Gold
Achievement
Loyalty
Morality
Recognition
Safety
Stability

Orange
I don't really relate to this category at all - these are like children in adult bodies to me. Their values do not match mine.

Skills
Green Skills
Analyzing
Consulting
Developing
Synthesizing
Debating
Researching
Writing

Blue Skills
Building Rapport
Communicating
Enlightening
Expressing Feelings
Inspiring
Interviewing
Motivating
Public Speaking
Recruiting
Training
Visualizing

Gold Skills
Coordinating
Delegating
Following through
Guarding
Managing
Planning

Orange Skills
I dont have many - I really dont relate to this group and see no need for their skills. Except maybe past skills of
Performing
Public Speaking

Leadership Styles

Green
Expects intelligence and competence
assumes only task relevancy
seeks ways to improve
visionary
analytical
constantly "in process" of change
expects people to follow through

Blue
Expects others to express views
Democratic unrestricted approach
expects people to develop their potential

Gold / Orange - I do not relate to

Self Esteem
Green
The need to be ingenious.
Motivated to improve
Language as communication tools one of many
Relationships are on intellectual level
Working as a source of pleasure
Detaches to determine the "whys" of things

Blue
The need to be authentic
Continuing search for the self
Seeking identity through contribution
Relating on a personal level
Seeing things through to the end
Tapping into universal harmony

Orange
The need to be skillful

Gold
The need to be responsible

Self Actualization
Green
strives for Mental Competence and Power

Blue
strives for Meaning and Purpose

Gold
Strives for Social Status

Orange
Strive for Freedom and Spontaneity

STRESSORS For GREENS
too many rules
people who get in the way executing strategy
disorganization of system
people who don't value knowledge and learning
lack of freedom
not knowing
off task distractions
unfairness
labels
unreasonable emotional outbursts
stupid people
no new horizons
schedules that make no sense

STRESSORS for BLUES
judgemental people
lack of communication
chaos
isolation
overly aggressive people
being yelled at
being lied to
bossy people
lack of support
lack of understanding
no hugs
not being able to express oneself
lack of romance

STRESSORS for GOLDS
lack of order
unreliable people
lack of leadership
loud people
waiting
change
inconsistency
cant get things done "right"
not belonging

STRESSORS for ORANGES
Boredom
Being on time
Deadlines
Lack of humor
Lack of sex
car problems
paperwork
lack of money
nagging
predictability
traffic
slow people
criticism
inflexibility
unbending rules

OUT OF SELF-ESTEEM behavior for GREENS
Indecisiveness
refusal to comply
extreme aloofness/withdrawal
Snobbish, put down remarks, and sarcasm
refusal to communicate / silent treatment
perfectionism due to perf anxiety
highly critical attitude toward self and others

OUT OF SELF-ESTEEM behavior for BlUE
attention getting misbehavior
lying to save face
Trancing out, day dreaming
passive resistance
crying and depression
yelling and screaming

OUT OF SELF-ESTEEM behavior for GOLD
Complaining / self pity
Anxiety / worry
Depression and fatigue
psychosomatic problems
Malicious judgment and self and others
Herd mentality
authoritarianism

OUT OF SELF-ESTEEM behavior for ORANGE
Rudeness and defiance
running away or dropping out
physical aggressiveness
use of stimulants
acting out boisterously
lying and cheating
breaking rules intentionally

WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU MIGHT BE? QUIZ HERE
http://www.truecolorscareer.com/quiz.asp

http://www.truecolors.org/whousestruecolors.html

Why?

Why is it so hard for me to cut contact with this person? Why can't i not think of them?

New Update coming soon!

I have so much to write about the last few weeks, trying to get it all situated in my head and then on to the paper since i have not written as it was happening!

More to come. Check back in 2 days!

Thoughts of my Abuelita

In homage to my Abuelita and going home next week I am going to make Yucca with Garlic sauce tonight and a full Latin dinner. I wonder what professor La Coe will say about next Monday?

I'm feeling lonely and sad today. God, why does Chris have to be such an ass sometimes? Never mind you have answered the question. Lord, please put someone in my life who can appreciate me for who I am and will not try to control me. Whats worse...my friggin family has not written me back. Ugh.. nothing pisses me off more than sharing with someone my personal things and then them acting like they don't even have time to write that they got the email. I will be telling them this!

Mail came to my apt for Tia and Sandra, two girls I have no intention of ever speaking to again but happen to live in my complex. I will give them their mail through Vaishnavi, another girl that is OUT of my life as well.

The "friends" just dwindle for me every couple months. I need to get used to being alone and walking with Jesus. :)

More to come... I am just not up to it right now.

I want to meet..

Sylvia Earle

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvia_Earle

Some stuff we wouldnt have heard about!

Morning Edition, April 5, 1999 ·

NPR's Alex Chadwick continues our N-P-R/National Geographic co-produced series "The Geographic Century." Seventy-years ago, archaeologists working in southern Iraq made a startling discovery: a domed room buried under thirty feet of sand and clay. Inside lay a hoard of treasure and the remains of 74 people -- all but six of them women, and all apparently ritually killed 5,000 years ago. of the National Geographic - NPR series, The Geographic Century.

Strange? What the heck were they doing and thinking over there? Do they hate women?

Everything I never wanted to know about my town!

It is in the Pacific Standard time zone. Elevation is 62 feet.

The estimated population, in 2003, was 66,337

Median household income
Local $70,173
National $41,994
Source: 2006 census, U.S. Census Bureau

Its near the south end of SM Bay. Local land baron introduced surfing to the California coast in 1907 by hiring Hawaiian-Irish athlete George Freeth to demonstrate the sport.

Crime: The number of violent crimes recorded by the FBI in 2003 was 195. The number of murders and homicides was 1. The violent crime rate was 2.9 per 1,000 people.

Filming location for:
· 1981 movie,
Well-known residents have included:
· Mary Lou Retton, gymnast, Olympic medallist
· Shannon Boxx, Olympic gold medallist (soccer)

Coffee: National and regional coffee companies with outlets here.

Support for libraries: Local government funding for the local library system, in fiscal years 2001-2002, was above the national average.

Gays & lesbians National index: 100
Local index: 91
R CA USA
Median household income 69,173 47,493 41,994
Householder under 25 45,647 24,742 22,679
Householder 25-34 68,081 44,424 41,414
Householder 35-44 81,679 54,365 50,654
Householder 45-54 77,562 61,312 56,300
Householder 55-64 67,969 55,742 47,447
Householder 65-74 37,264 37,000 31,368
Householder 75 and older 26,526 27,081 22,259
PER CAPITA INCOME BY RACE OR ETHNICITY ($)
Number Number Number
R CA USA
Per capita income 38,305 22,711 21,587
White 40,663 27,707 23,918
Black or African American 37,690 17,447 14,437
Native American 28,087 15,226 12,893
Asian 36,305 22,050 21,823
Native Hawaiian and Pacific islander 16,513 15,610 15,054
Some other race 21,523 10,579 10,813
Two or more races 22,879 14,573 13,405
Hispanic or Latino 21,848 11,674 12,111

County Single men per 100 single women
Los Angeles County, CA 91

EDUCATIONAL ATTAINMENT
Number Number Number
Population 25 and older 47,851

Number Pct Pct Pct
High school graduates (includes equivalency)
6,651 13.9 20.1 28.6
Some college, or associate's degree
14,670 30.7 30.0 27.4
Bachelor's degree
14,621 30.6 17.1 15.5
Master's, professional or doctorate degree
8,342 17.4 9.5 8.9
SCHOOL ENROLLMENT

Number Number Number
Population 3 years and over enrolled in school 14,404

Number Pct Pct Pct
Preschool and kindergarten
1,766 12.3 10.9 11.9
Grades 1-12
7,502 52.1 63.9 65.3
College
5,136 35.7 25.2 22.8

MARITAL STATUS CA USA
Number Number Number
Male population 15 and older
26,549
Number Pct Pct Pct
Male, never married
10,182 38.4 33.8 30.3
Male, married with spouse
12,018 45.3 48.5 52.9
Male, married without spouse
974 3.7 7.6 5.7
Male, widowed
296 1.1 2.2 2.5
Male, divorced
3,079 11.6 7.9 8.6
Number Number Number
Female population 15 and older 26,717
Number Pct Pct Pct
Female, never married
7,983 29.9 26.5 24.1
Female, married with spouse
11,718 43.9 47.2 49.5
Female, married without spouse
1,064 4.0 6.4 5.1
Female, widowed
1,838 6.9 8.9 10.5
Female, divorced
4,114 15.4 11.0 10.8

Why?

This person is not responsible for my happiness, I am. Just when I thought he was was not capable of being thoughtful, the smallest gift. A Hello Kitty ice pack for my bruises when trying surfing was given to me by him. How sweet.

Why can I not stop contacting this person compusively? They have moved on, why aren't I? At my request of should I "Get used to not seeing/hearing from this person" often, they said "yeah something like that" and 3 weeks before it was I don't love you anymore and I don't want to be with you because he didn't "feel" anymore the in - "love" or the sparks or whatever and felt like the grass was greener. Well, guess what? That "love" stuff aka infatuation stuff fades and over time it will fade with anyone who he is with. If that's why he was with me and would then always be active to find someone else, then its better it all showed itself now. Adult mutual "Love" is kept up and worked on with actions, emotional deposits, and with honesty, communication and true intimacy it can be. Sometimes its without sex, sometimes it encounters differences in wants, expectations and personality. Childlike, selfish infatuation isn't capable of understanding or working the sphere those things.

Still no baptism gift... I will wait and see what happens over time. Either way, its not what I feel I deserve.

I have been told to stop being stubborn. GO EFFING COLD TURKEY. I MUST LET GO OF HOPE.

Letters to God 3

8/26/08
Dear Jehovah,
Well praise to you! Please bless my family & friends - they need you but don't know it. Help them come to know you!

Tonight you seem to have answered my prayer on the how to proceed with Chris front. I asked Chris if I "should get used to not seeing him or spending time with him" and he said "yes, something like that". He may be confused and trying to hold on while letting go and yo-yo me but YOU def are not. The message is pretty clear from you! Steer clear til he knows what he really wants and acts in a loving manner that is consistent. He needs to walk his walk with you and I need to walk mine. Separately. Continue to be mostly out of contact.

He is moving away, he may not keep the faith, it seems he still doesn't know what he wants, is rarely thoughtful with giving or generosity of his time, expressive of his expectations or communicative and still is not purposeful or moving toward complete honesty and working at issues or even determining what they were also at this time everyone is telling me CUT OFF ALL CONTACT-GO COLD TURKEY. I now have the support in place. Thank you.

It cannot hurt to try again. Imagine the life I would be living now had I succeeded in cutting all contact in March and never spoken to him in June? I begin to try once more. Thank you Lord for showing me truths. Please KILL my compulsions to reach out to him at times and contact him. If you are trying to teach me patience and self control as Trav mentioned please let it be gently and give me the "out you promise to help me overcome".

Thank you again for your blessings and love. I hope to wake early tomorrow and get on a sleep schedule so I may dedicate to you, school and work. Please let my new friends be open to spending time with me in these precarious months and fill my life with self love, helping others, hunger for you and create healthy habits. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

Things I want for my new life
self healing
a great job I enjoy
new friends & closer bonds
an education
to enjoy my own company
find my passion
a relationship with God through which all the above things are possible.
ITEMS
iphone/ipod
digicam/vid
skateboard
backpack/roll bag
side table ikea
printer
costco foam board

TO DO
1) organize papers
2) search flights home
3) study!
4) eat healthy/workout/stretch

8/25/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you so much a day without pain! Thank you for a beautiful day and night and blessing me so much! Thank you for allowing me to spend time with Chris non abusively and to express my thoughts of his actions yesterday and him understand and validate my feeling. Your will be done with him Lord. Thank you for giving me food to eat, a Wii to work out on, and for trying to build my body and resistance. Please keep me strong Jehovah, until Chris knows what he wants, without a doubt. Thank you for letting me let go and hand my concerns over to you instead of spilling them onto him. Please keep me strong in building my faith in your and burying myself in your Word and making strong action for your will. I have many questions, please lead me to answers.

Please grant me wisdom w/ school and learning new things. Thank you for Corey, Karin, Liz, Andrea, Jayme and the girls being in my life. Please let me know if this is the right place for me Lord or you want me somewhere else. I am sure it will all be in your time.

Thank you for giving me the words to tell Steven on IM and not being carried away with anger when he began to insult you and me! Wow! What a change for me. Please help Chris stay strong in the faith and get closer to you. Show him to lean on you and bless him in his next steps. As he is moving away and changing his life let him not forget you and if it is your will for us to remain in contact please show that or not.

Please bless my family & friends - they need you but don't know it. Help them come to know you! All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

PS - I am sorry for lying today, and using your name in vain. I sincerely apologize and will try harder tomorrow.

8/24/08
Praise be! Lord of stregnth and might of grace and mercy. Reading Isaiah I am seeing the need to submit to you. Thank you for your Word and law! I am getting baptized in 4 hours! Thank you for the opportunity to be like Jesus. Your 10 commandments are
1) Have no other gods before me. I am your God.
2) Do not bow down or worship others/idols or create idols.
3) Do not use the name of your Lord in vain.
4) You will honor your father and mother.
5) You will keep the Sabbath (7th day) holy and rest.
6) Do not look with lust or commit adultery.
7) Do not be angry without cause or commit murder.
8) Do not steal.
9) Do not lie or bear false witness against anyone.
10) Do not covet your neighbors anything.

Please keep me strong in the situation with Chris and bring to light his true intentions. Though after writing this I am thinking his true intention is to have his cake and eat it too with me as has been from the beginning. Only you know the truth and I know you have my best interests. Please light my way to you. Please envelop me in your fold and keep me on the path to you. Let me not be misled by or fall astray for or because of others. Please make me strong in the face of persecution and ridicule from my family and give me assistance in knowing what to say as I go out into the world with your message.

Chris is being rude to me. You do not treat me with such nonchalance and would never treat me this way, therefore I am sending him home Jehovah. I do not need to allow this anymore as I know you love me no matter what/who is in my life or not. Help me to forgive him later on, however I will not be a doormat to further treatment like this. Jesus said forgive, not be a fool.

Please bless my family & friends and help them come to know you! All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

8/23/08
Dear Jehovah,
Yo! My life, my love, my Lord. Praise be to you! You are most amazing! What a great day! Thank you for today! Today I was pain free and I appreciate the opportunities to eat and learn another valuable life lesson about not giving up. Please help me to become strong in you Jehovah. Please help me to become strong in my faith and know that I am serving the one True YOU. It is important to me that I do not break my commitment to you. I am being baptized tomorrow, I consider this an honor. "Be baptized, spread the good news and make disciples" Jesus said, and that is what I am trying to do. Please show me the way with the situation with Chris. Help me to let go if that is your will or to be patience if you deem so. Do not let me be tempted by him Lord. Let me be strong as a rock in your will and not to sin against you. Please give me te strength and wisdom and lead my path to you. Please let me know your will in regards to the music and worship and make a path clear for me to learn, be strong and have clean fun at the retreat.

Please bless my family & friends and help them come to know you! I pray for Chris to turn to you for guidance and wisdom instead of worldly things when he is tempted and I pray for us to strengthen our relationship if that is your desire for us. If not, I am prepared, as I said to let him go. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

THINGS FOR FOREST HOME
board shorts/shirts
1 piece w/ a shirt - no bikinis
sweatshirt
sleeping bag / pillow
flashlight
towel
pajamas
sunglasses

8/22/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for today! It was a beautiful day and I appreciate it being pain free! Thank you for providing food for me to eat and the opportunity to go on the retreat next week. Please help me to forgive and let go of control of others. PLease help me to continue strong in the faith. I want to get to know you Lord. Please allow me to get closer to others who put you first in deeds and words and are doing your will.

Please show me your will for me in my career & life path. Please comfort me. I am feeling sad tonight Jehovah and beating myself up and I am not sure why. I feel lonely and I am tempted to turn to Chris for comfort. Please bring him closer to me or keep him from me if that is your will. Please bless me tomorrow at first day of school and watch over my safety this month. I am trying to do my best in all things & feel useless for falling short. I know you said we all fall short and you love us anyway, but I feel I keep failing you and I am moving away instead of near. I have doubts. Oh that only you would remove them!

Please keep me strong in self control and against temptation. I lift up those in the church who also need your comfort and suffering tonight. Please help my family come to know you and keep them safe in these troublesome times. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of the son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

PS - Jesus thank you for making me aware of my transgressions now and doing wrong. I am sorry for lying today, using Gods name in vain, and looking with lust. Please forgive me, I know I "was bought at a price".

Please help my family come to know you and keep me on your desired path for me, I am lost without you! All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

8/21/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise you! Thank you for blessing me today with the ocean, a friend to show me your Word, not feeling pain and some more confidence to go in the water! Wow! Thank you for giving me the strength to say no to Chris and his heart's understanding last night which could only have been your influence. Please give him patience Jehovah to be with me or let him fall away if that is to be. Thank you for watching over me and blessing me with your love and comfort in the Word. I would like to offer up Chris, that you help him hunger for your Word and that he find a good place to live for him and the puppy dogs. Remember how sad he was when he first came over Jehovah - talking gloom and doom? Help him please flee temptation and going toward sin. Please remove my temptations at this time and help me keep my eyes firmly focused "not on what is seen but what is unseen." To look to the Word for comfort and to fellowship w/ others who are walking in the spirit. Help me with discernment at this time so I do not put any other gods before you and to follow your path for me and see your will for my career. Please help my family come to know you and keep me on your desired path for me, I am lost without you! All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

PS I am sorry Jesus for lying today, looking with lust, not honoring my father, and feeling jealousy toward J & Cheyanne- please forgive me. I will also forgive others.

8/20/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for this day. How awesome are your ways! Thank you for giving me some insight on temptation through the ladies advice today. I must turn away from it, practice self control and see Chris as a new follower and not stumble or try to cause him to stumble.

Dear Lord of power please give me the strength to speak to Chris lovingly but firmly today about us not having sex and turning him away from relationship at this time. Please give me a clear message of your will for me with the music direction. Uncanny how we did 2 songs tonight at minichurch that I LOVE TO SING to you and that Ash had asked me earlier to sing louder so everyone could hear me if we sang them...Thank you for that. Thank you for watching over me today in the ocean Jesus. I prayed for confidence and I felt it rising up in me. I learned a valuable lesson today and I think I will try again tomorrow to really push myself out there. I love you Lord! Thank you for not giving me to pain today and stopping me from temptation to call Chris earlier in the day. I want to pray for Marco, Liz's friend tonight, please help see him through his difficult time. I would like to pray for Asha and Joey that they receive your blessings for them w/ the VISA and Joey getting a job doing what will carry out your will. Please help Joey with his depression Lord, he needs you. I would like to pray for Chris that you show him your love and allow him to get closer to you and learn your ways /lessons for him. Build him to his walk with you so we may be able to possibly be together someday, if that is your will for us. I pray for my family and friends to come to see the promise of salvation you offer through Jesus.

Please help me to be strong in my walk/path to you and getting close to those who put YOU first and form lasting bonds with your true believers. Thank you for today's advice and messages! I feel blessed and so lucky you are in my life. I am so happy!

I would like to pray for Claudia, that she fall away from her temptation with the tempting/txting abrastallion guy and walk away from it. Let her search for you Lord and men have to come through you to even get to her. I want to put you 1st and know without a doubt that you are my God, that you are the one true God so I will put no other God's before you! Show me the way, please keep giving me signs. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

PS - I am sorry for lying, stealing into the sandwich line at school, and behaving proudly as well as having lustful thoughts.

8/18/08
Dear Jehovah,
What up J! I praise you this day and all days! You have put such wonderful things in this heart today! Thank you so much for your blessings today with my interview, no pain, reaching out for info on your Word (getting answers) and for allowing me to hang out and have clean fun as opposed to sinful fun.

I can even share my fun with you also! Jehovah, thank you so much for Jayme's invitation to tonight's bible class, it felt so good, so reassuring to know that I truly am calling you by the name that praises, reveals, and worships you. I feel so undeserving. Thank you Jesus! I hallow the Fathers name and give whole friggin hearted thanks for today. Please help me to grow in you and keep my eyes planted on you and furthering your kingdom. Pleas give me confidence in reaching out to godly others and to be able to withstand. Please put those in my life who put you first and allow me to get close to them. Please give me the confidence once more to write for you, create for you, and speak out in your name! I think I want to go to mission Jehovah, help me to somehow get out where you want me. Please help keep me strong as a rock with temptation and fighting it. I want you to use me and give me the "attractive force" that will entice others to know you! I pray for Stan to come to know you Lord and to return to you. I pray for my family and friends to come to see the promise of salvation you offer through Jesus. I pray for humility, love and wisdom to right as I go through this week. Your will be done! All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ. - Amen

PS - I am sorry Jesus for swearing today, using God's name in vain, looking with lust at Travis, and not being truthful. You are the name by which I am saved and I will try harder tomorrow. =(

PPS - If me writing music again for you is your will, please put me in contact with musicians and a music studio I can work in/to record by the end of next month. If not, I am prepared to do what you will while I am here. Like Stacie Frenes said, I will "just use what you gave me"?. You alone are the power and the force to really move me.

(then I wrote 2 songs after this prayer)

8/17/08
Dear Jehovah,
Hi! Praise you today for a wonderful day and full understanding of today's sermon! WoW!! I fell today Jehovah and do not think I am strong enough to resist my feelings for Chris. Please take me in Lord and help me "fix my eyes" as you say, only on you!

You are the only one of importance in my life to please + love and share my everything with. Please let your will be done with me Lord and continue prodding my stubborn imperfect self along the path. Thank you for blessing me Lord! I pray for those in my church who are suffering. I pray the girls will take me in and accept me as you do so I may fellowship with other strong believers. I feel alone Lord, open you Word to me tonight and let me run to you for comfort. Please help me to be strong this week in not contacting Chris and keeping my focus on you and work and your goals/glory. As always please let my family and friends come to know you Lord so they too may partake of the blessings. All these things I pray in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen

8/16/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise to you today! Thank you so much for a beautiful day and no pain thus far. Lord, it seems Chris has again walked away and left (again) for good. If this is your will, please do not let him ever come back until he is 100% sure of his love and will not take it away at sign of problems, boredom, comfort or for whatever reasons he keeps vacillating and being lukewarm. I am no longer going to allow him to play me like a yo-yo. You respect me and care for me therefore so should he. I will not allow this treatment. Please let your will be done with this and all things in my life. If it is not your will, PLEASE MAKE ME STRONG in keeping out of contact with this confused sinning person. I am doing the best I can. I would like to pray that those i am evangelizing with will be able to lean on you and do so without fear. Renew my confidence Jehovah as I reach out to fellowship with the church and your worshipers.If this is not the church for me, please lead me where you want me.

I want to do your will and only your will. Prepare me for persecution, make me strong in faith in you and not turn away out of fear. I would like to pray for my family and friends to come to know you and try to do your will also. I myself need to be stronger in fighting temptations and letting go of worldly things. Move me closer to you, my rock, and give me wings to serve and handle upcoming trials. Please help me let go of resentments and mistrust and to find my true job and passion and do/give with all my heart, mind and soul for you. All these things I ask in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen

PS Please forgive me for being envious, using your name in vain, thinking lustful thoughts and lying yesterday. I am sorry Jesus. =(

8/15/08
Dear Jehovah,
Lord I come to you humbly tonight to ask for forgiveness and comfort. I am feeling sad and confused and unsure of myself. I feel tempted to push away my pain with old methods that do not work for me, or you. I no longer have Chris or anyone to turn to you but you and I guess that is the way it should be. I need you God. I need you in my life. I want to do your will and I feel lost. I am sure of one thing and that is I need to stay on my path to you. Please open up your Word to me tonight and do not let me be misled. Deliver me from sadness in your time. Let your will be done even if that means pain at this time. I want to be loved Jehovah, I want to be cherished, hold me and keep me close tonight please.

Thank you for todays message and thank you for your grace & mercy. I am going to read once more of Jesus's struggle and Jobs trials and see if I cannot find the comfort there. All these things I pray in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen
PS - I will write more. These are selfish prayers all about myself.

8/13/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for another day without pain and to try to be kind. I am coming to you in desperation Jehovah. Help Chris and I to walk away from this negativity. Please help him to see what it is you want him to see and to walk away from us or to be patient.

Whatever is your will Jehovah that is what I want. He has asked I leave him alone until Sunday, please make me strong in doing this. I do not want to hurt anymore! I don't want him to hurt either.

Give him patience and understanding please. Show him your will for him. I know you have the best for us in store and that your will whether we fight it or not will prevail. I do not trust him & I do not think he knows for himself what he truly wants. I know what I want and I trust myself in your care.

Please give me strength tonight to go over my step 4/5 and to let go and let you take over. Let your will be done in this and all things in my life. Am I still fighting you? Please let me see it if I am. Please show me my next steps on your path. Let me show love to those who are in my life and to see think with forgiveness only, but not in weakness allowing sin. All these things I pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen

8/11/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise you today Lord! I will prob pray more later on but I just need to talk to you right now. I am feeling fearful and unsure of my way. Thank you for blessing me today with a place to live and food to eat. I will eat today and try to care for myself.

I am confused Lord and need your guidance and mercy. I still feel guilty for my transgression yesterday. Please help me to forgive myself and not let myself do that again. Please show me your will for me with my career ad path. I am starting to feel azy and distracted. I am just not sure what to do! I know you want what is best for me, and I do not want to go against that, as I do NOT know best. I want to leave it all in your capable hands Father. Please remove this from me. Please help me to let go and let you take it over from here.

Put it in Chris's heart to persevere and be honest with me about his intentions and to stay strong in your will for him. Please show me what is going on with him Jehovah as I am again confused by him. Please let me leave him and be strong in walking away from this relationship or be patient at working at it if that is your will. Please bring me closer to work you want me to do and show me your path for me. I will walk blindly today and let you lead as you will. I give it to you. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen

8/10/08
Dear Jehovah,
Lord Almighty! Hello! Thank you so much for blessing me this last week with seeing my sister and us living through the 5 car accident we witnessed and were 2 cars behind! That could have been us!

Thank you for caring for me by not giving me more pain than I could bear and thank you for delivering me from my own sadness. Lord, I would like to pray for forgiveness in giving into temptation with sex before marriage. Please give me strength to be strong and firm against this sin. I did not feel good doing that to you and do not want my guilt to push me into doing more wrong. Please help me be strong in my situation with Chris. Please give me wisdom in this change of heart he has had and show me your will for me as you did previously.

I am not sure why he is so eager to come back to me, however, I want to put you first and be yours, not his. I want only your will and mercy as I know will never and have never let me down. Please guide me and keep me from evil thoughts and actions.

I pray for Chris in his temptations of the path blocking his way to you. He seems to be becoming the man I prayed for, but I am completely prepared to let him go should that be your will. Please help him continue on his path to you.

Please bless Vaish with your mercy and and love and let your will be done in regards to her possible kid situation. I ask for your blessings and wisdom in the way that I am going, and I pray I am doing your will. Please bless my family & friends and help them to come to know you. Please allow me to trust & fellowship with those who put you first and to get close to them. Give me the courage to reach out and the hope for intimacy with your followers.

Again I ask for your mercy and forgiveness what happened with Chris and to make me A ROCK in now allowing that behavior and if he is turned away because of it, to let me let him go once and for all and never look back. Please help me to trust him and to let go of my previous habits and behaviors. Put more people in my sight this week to help and a job to come out of my desire to be like Christ.
All these things I ask, pray and give thanks in the name of your son, Jesus Christ - Amen

...it was not real love - it was 2 addicts

it was this...


http://www.tc.umn.edu/%7Eparkx032/RLT-WEB.html

http://www.tc.umn.edu/%7Eparkx032/CY-HOAX.html

Excerpt:
III. Love & Marriage: Fantasy & Facts.
In the American way of love, marriages are contracted 'for love'. But often the kind of 'love' that leads to the altar is romantic infatuation. After the honeymoon is over, grim reality submerges the fantasy. The bubble of romance, which seemed so exquisitely beautiful for a moment, vanishes with a silent pop, leaving only a small wet mark.
In other cultures, marriages are created for more practical reasons. If there is to be any affection, let it come along later.

But perhaps romantic love and marriage are incompatible. Projected fantasies seldom survive years of living together. Romantic love can be an enjoyable and harmless emotional game —as long as we don't attempt to construct our lives around it.

VI. Good-bye to Illusions, Hello to Reality.
The difficulty we might have in making ourselves 'fall in love' is not our emotional deficiency but our intellectual honesty. If we eventually become convinced that romantic love is an illusion—a web of projected fantasies and artificial feelings—
what do we do next?

We can abandon these cultural delusions and begin to establish
our relationships based on real information about each other and genuine commitment toward each other. Reality-based relationships might not have the same emotional high,but, in the long run, they are much better for us. Instead of projecting our pre-existing fantasies on others,we can get to know them as they really are
—and as the persons they are becoming.

The wild, extravagant feeling of being head-over-heels in love is certainly an enjoyable delusion while that emotional 'high' lasts,but should we attempt to build relationships on fantasy feelings?

IV. How Did We Learn the Romantic Response?
Almost from the moment of birth, we have been surrounded by the romantic ythology.
Every element of the popular culture assumes that romance is real: television, movies, novels, poetry, soap operas, advertising, popular music of every kind, newspapers, magazine, & dating services. We grew up in a milieu of romantic love. Everywhere we turn, even tho we seldom notice it, someone is making positive references to 'falling in love'.

The reason for the uniformity of our romantic beliefs and experiences is not genetic similarity, control by the gods, or a common 'human nature' —but a common cultural tradition going back to the Middle Ages. As diverse as we are, most of us pursue the same dream of romantic love. Without the help of any organized conspiracy,
hundreds of accidental elements of popular culture have shown us how to 'fall in love'.
These ever-present purveyors of the romantic mythology have shaped our deepest emotional-psychological structure: We have been programmed to respond when someone pushes the love button.

Ugh right? How gross?! Thank god its over, to make way for the real deal or maybe.. not ever! Praise the Lord. :) I am inspired to get out there and find my passion... however long it takes. My time, my love, my sacrifices, my energy will be given to something that actually gives back!

Thank God I don't have kids!

After watching the Nanny and TLC sixtuplets show I have realized it is a very good thing Chris has fallen out of love with me and we are no longer together! I am still trying to fill the void of what I didn't get in my childhood and meet my own needs, imagine having to meet 3 or 4 other humans?

Imagine having kids in that relationship? Trying to raise responsible, honest, boundaries, non-violent, loving, trusting adults? We might have never even been able to come an agreement on the way to raise them or ever even discipline them.

I mean if we couldn't conquer these boundary, communication and trust issues there is is no way we could have ever dealt with marriage and children issues!

Letters to God 2

8/3/08
Dear Jehovah,
Praise to you for this wonderful day! I am in so much pain but I am going to praise you and give thanks. Thank you so much for letting me have my day with Corey and showing me your Word (the lessons of the fruits and flesh vs spirit hearts). Thank you for giving me the courage to reach out instead of isolating and feeling alone. Please continue to give me strength as my pain grows and thank you for my lesson with the earthquake. Thank you for reminding me of Chris's weaknesses today and our spiritual incompatibility. Please continue to help me be strong in letting go of him and our past, so I may find the path instead to you and only you. Thank you for bringing my sister to me and giving me food to eat! Please put those in my life who put you first and foremost so I may trust, fellowship, and feel close to your good fruit & have the opportunity to learn by their examples and modicum. I want to get closer to you and find your will for me in my career. Whatever is your will please continue to push me in that direction as you have with Chris. I have approx 30 days to find a job before I cannot live here, please bless me with something you would like for me to start with.

Please help my family and friends come to know you Jesus. I pray for Chris in his work situation to remember to trust in you and to keep himself from being misled. Thank you for granting him a conscience. I pray you make him strong as a rock for you and only you God, that he learns to trust in you and therefore learns to trust in himself.

Give him integrity and honesty as he forges through this & show him your will for him. Thank you for making him my brother in Christ and please strengthen our relationship over time. I pray for Asha and Joey Lord that they conquer their emotional and career hurdles and Corey that she may succeed at her new job in your will. I pray for Alicia to be strengthened with dealing with her finances Lord, and thank you for giving me the info to search and advise her. Thank you for the wisdom of Corey's mom and dad yesterday in the advice of you giving to me little by little, preparing me slowly so I may get to enjoy at the right time/handle the larger things you have in store for me that I cannot see. I love you and praise you and thank you for your undeserved love and mercy. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

7/30/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you so much for this day! Praise you for allowing me another breath and a feeling of calm. I am thankful for being able to buy food and eat. Thank you so much for feeding me and blessing me! I would like to pray for strength Jehovah to persevere on the path to Christ. I would like to ask for humility and forgiveness with those who I have lingering resentments toward. I would like to prepare to ask you to remove these shortcomings of mine and replace them with awareness and correct blameless behaviors.(in your time)

Please come soon Jesus so you may restore this system of things and rid us of "the god of this age". Open my ears so I may hear, open my eyes so I may see your will for me in my career and life path to serve you.

Please help my family and friends come to know you and your love for them and to follow your way, Jesus. Please bless the homeless and women who are stuck with violence and the "proud scoffers" in their midst and see no way out. Please help those who are on mission and allow their light (and mine here) to shine so others will turn to you by their examples. Thank you for returning Karin home safely! Please help me to not be misled by the false prophets and light your way clearly for me so I may be the fertile ground and not cracks, thorns or eaten by the birds.

Thank you kindly for one more day without pain and one more day to try to serve. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, Amen.

PS Thanks for making me strong against the temptation/desire to masturbate and to smoke today!

7/29/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for blessing me today with another breath of life! I truly was afraid during this earthquake and forgot to pray to you and seek you first! Please do not ever let me do that again! I need to remove this fear/cowardice I have of perishing and being persecuted in your name. I know you are my Savior Jesus, how can I let go in those moments of utter fear? Faith. Please help me strengthen my faith and get closer to you Jesus. Please open your Word to me so I may understand and continue repenting. Thank you for removing my desire to smoke and masturbate yesterday. I am feeling stressed and those are my comforts which hurt myself.

Please continue to help me to be strong as only you can. I want to care for this temple while I have it. Thank you for this gift. Please continue to bless my family and friends come to know you Jesus and your promise for them Lord. Please bless those on the mission field and those spreading your Word. I look forward to joining those ranks soon. Let me see the "fruits" of this congregation Lord so I may not be misled by false doctrine or prophets coming in "your name". You say I will know them by their fruits and they should show fruits of the spirit, but how if they are human?

Please take this fear and replace it with meek assertion and godly conviction. Help me to forgive those who trespass against me as you forgive me. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/28/08
Dear Jehovah,
Hi! Thank you for blessing me with no pain on this gorgeous day! Thank you for Sundays msg and hearing my mothers wisdom on your time. Thank you for giving me another day of breath and Chris and Ray being able to fix my computer so I may look for work. Please bless them both in their pursuits and let them come to know your love and blessings.

Please continue to help me be strong in this departure from Chris and remind me of our spiritual incompatibility when I am feeling weak and in love. Please let me forgive and care for him as a brother in Christ only and slowly let go of our past. Give me the strength to move on Lord and see only you and your will for me.

Envelop me Jesus as I begin work and school and encounter struggles to seek the kingdom first! Please bless my family and friends & loved ones to come to know you Jesus and your desire for them, Lord. Help me to be a vessel of your will and find my career path & what you divinely deem for me. Please let me help more others Lord and bring them to your fold.

All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/26/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for this wonderful day and the witnessing of beauty in humans and sharing good music in the company of women and some support. Please put those in my life who put you first and bless me with their friendship and companionship. Give me the strength and comfort I need to get through this time of learning Chris and I are not meant to be. I will need your strength, honesty and kindness toward him tomorrow, to be kind but not close or with anger/judgment.

I would like to ask that you please bless my family and friends & loved ones to come to know you. Only you have the power and the glory to bring these changes in my life and others. Please bless those being persecuted and doing your will in dangerous places, I look forward to joining them. Thank you again for showing me your will with Chris and granting/planting it in his heart to be honest with me. Thank you for loving and saving me! Please help Nancy to to come to know your love and comfort. Please give her self-love. You are the warmth that one can feel in the coldest of times.

Please grants me the fruits of the spirit Jesus and help me to become more like you. Continue to light my path toward your will for me in my life and career. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/25/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for this beautiful blessed day. Though I am feeling sad Chris did not call me and seems to have again abandoned me, I put it all in your loving hands. You are my rock. You are my love. I am thankful for all these experiences and teachings. I know you love me and have better for me in store. Give me patience Jehovah and please above all strength. Show me your will for me and put those in my life who put you first in all things. Help me to get over Chris Jehovah.

Help me to let go of all the pain and forgive with love and letting go. You have answered my prayers in leading Chris to you for better changes in his life. Thank you. However, you seem to refuse to give him to me for me to love at this time. I will work on letting him go and giving the outcome to you. Please put at homeless person in my sight today to feed. Please light my way as I feel I am in darkness. Please bless my family and friends and help them to come to know you. Enfold me and put me in your arms so I may stay on and walk your path only. All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/24/08 10:55p
Feeling Excercise
What does let go and let God mean in this situation with Chris?
It means I cannot control Chris only he can! I cannot stop him from behaving this way. He knows how I feel and he still continues. He told me the other day he would hurt me, probably. He has told me that he fears he will continue to be this way. Letting go and letting God means stop getting in His way. Let things progress they way they should and don't question or fight it. Chris and I are not meant to be together or friends. I do not trust him anymore. We cannot fix what was broken. I need to let him go and know that though I may not see it, God wants better for me than this. He will eventually bring someone into my life who will not treat me this way. I need to give in and be subservient. I need to trust God as he is more trustworthy than Chris or anyone can ever be.

I need to know that God knows what is in my best interest and sees the bumps and accelerations in the road ahead that I dont. I need to give this pain to Him. Pray, get closer, continue working on my own life and building my relationship with Him.

What does this situation remind me of my childhood and is this true for me today?
The situation with Chris reminds me of being abandoned and feeling not good enough for my parents to love me, choose me or treat me well. Not being good enough for dad to call, write, or IM. Is this true for me today?

No. This is not true. I am good enough. I am a great person. CHris does not need to be at my beck and call and let me know everything he does and when. I can never be abandoned by God so I dont need to put all this emphasis and care on one person. It is his loss, not mine. Perhaps he is doing something very important to his future, only God knows. (he was playing pool with Ray and later picking up another girl)

I am angry that he says he will call and does not. This reminds me of my dad letting me down. I would wait by the phone or door for him to come or call and then nothing. Leading me to feel like I was unimportant, unwanted. Then he would act as if nothing happened or it was not a big deal that he let me down and that his actions "should not" hurt. I didn't bring it up to dad for fear of confrontation or further abandonment. Now as an adult, I do not need to do this anymore or accept this behavior.

7/21/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you for blessing me today w/ another breath on earth! Thank you for the wonderful weather and Sunday sermon about giving YOU the glory. I want your will Father in my situation with Chris and my life path! Please show it to me. Help me be come strong in my faith in you only. Help me to keep humble and remain in love and be loving and trusting. If my love and eyes are on you, whom then shall I fear? No one for you are the Most High! I am blessed by you and want to cast off this flesh and sin! Thank you Jesus for showing me the way today. Please bless my family and friends and help them to come to know you. Lead the way for my life, please Lord! All these things I ... wait Jehovah!

There are some others I would like to pray for. I would like to pray for our world leaders that they realize their wrongs and to repent (even just one) and i would like to give thanks for answering Alicia's prayer and giving Fathey the spirit to go on. I would like to pray for Chris today Lord that you give him the encouragement he needs for his work and help him stay true to you. Help him see the reason you have him working there or not and grant him the patience to do what he needs to do. Help him to remember to give you glory in his actions and to be loving and strong in his faith in you. I would like to pray for Paige in her therapy and in being honest with me. I would like to pray for Anne's leg to be healed. I would like to pray for those unseen who need you today and your comfort and love.

All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/16/08
Dear Jehovah,
Thank you blessing me with today and with no pain and love from Chris. Keep me strong in my direction to you Lord. I do not want to stray. Allow me to be deaf to lied and have open eyes for fruits and works only. Please bless my family and friends in their trials and help them to know you Jesus! Please grant me the wisdom when reading your Word to understand and act justly. Please bless me with finding your career path for me and knowing the next way to go. Give me strength to hold onto you and to let go of trivial things and people (such as my issues with Chris) I pray for those who are spreading your news to be safe and for the hearts to melt of those in opposition they face. Please show me the way to becoming involved in these missions somehow and to communicate with others.

I pray for and beg for your will for me with Chris and my life path to be shown in a way I can clearly see and I will not question you. I will follow. Give me strength and faith to continue on your path as I am confused as to which way to go.


All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

7/15/08
Thank you for keeping me safe & alive today and one more day to breathe. Thank you for caring for me and blessing me with a place to live, someone to talk to (Alicia) and the will to move forward. Thank you for opening your Word to me and for allowing me to learn from my mistakes! Please keep me close Jesus as I am approaching the end time.

Please guide my steps Jesus so I may walk inly to you in your direction. When my focus is not on you, I get lost and I am taken by evil. Please continue to bless me and put those in my life who who put you first and foremost in theirs. Help me to become more like you Lord so that I may inherit eternal life. Please bless my family and friends in their trying times. Please keep me from those "whose feet run to deception" and take from me "those who want to shed innocent blood". Help me to be strong and give me wisdom in determining right from wrong. Please put it in Paige's heart to be honest with me about her intentions with Chris.

Please help me to let go of my mistrust of Chris. I pray for them both to come know you Lord and follow your honest and just path. Please help Alicia gain the strength she needs for her situation. Please bless my mini-church women with the love they need, the wisdom to determine what is right and the faith in you to put you first in all things. Please bless my family in the death of my grandmother, comfort them in their grief, they need you. Let them be filled with your joy instead and be comforted. Thank you for loving me, for answering my prayers (Chris hasn't smoked in days and is trying to be kinder!) and giving me the strength to go on for one more day.

All these things I ask, pray and give thanks, in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ my Savior, Amen.

Letters to God May/June

Drop Weapons

Drop Weapons: Several soldiers who have returned from combat zones talk with the American News Project about what they say is the widespread practice of using "drop weapons" to cover up the killing of innocent civilians in Iraq and Afghanistan. We feature five veterans and current members of Iraq Veterans Against the War, plus retired Lieutenant Colonel Gary Solis, a Vietnam War veteran and legal scholar who taught "Law of War" at West Point.


http://newsproject.org/player.swf

Will this method be used by them against us?